Ukucabanga, Ukulawula Nokuvuma Emidlalweni Ye-AI

Lesi sihloko senzelwe abantu abadala, futhi simayelana nesihloko abantu abadala abavame ukukuthola kunzima ukukhuluma ngaso ngokusobala: ukucabanga ngokulawula. Ukulawulwa. Ukulawula. Ukujatshuliswa, ukubanjwa, ukuyalelwa, ukuhlekwa, ukuzinikela. Lezi zimo zithatha indawo enkulu ngokumangalisayo engqondweni yabantu abacabangela ezocansi, futhi zikhanga inani elikhulu ngokumangalisayo lehlazo langasese.

Ukulingisa kwe-AI kunikeze abantu abaningi ithuba labo lokuqala lokuhlola lezi zinto abazicabangayo ngendlela esebenzisanayo, nomlingani ophendulayo, ngaphandle kokudinga ukuchaza noma ukuthethelela noma yini komunye umuntu. Lokho kuyinkululeko yangempela, futhi kuza nemibuzo yangempela. Kusho ukuthini ukuthi uyakufuna lokhu? Kuphephile? Iphi imingcele? Le ndatshana izama ukuphendula leyo mibuzo ngokuthula, ngalokho ucwaningo olukushoyo ngempela, futhi ngaphandle kokufundisa ngokuziphatha noma ukuzenza sengathi imingcele ayibalulekile.

Kuvamile, akuyona into exakile

Into yokuqala okufanele uyazi ukuthi ukucabanga okubandakanya ukubusa nokuzithoba akuyona into engavamile. Kungenye yezinto ezivame kakhulu zocansi ezibikwa ezinhlolweni.

Ukubuyekezwa kukaHarold Leitenberg noKris Henning kowe-1995 kocwaningo lwezocansi, oluhlanganise amashumi eminyaka ezifundo, lwathola ukuthi izingqikithi zokuzithoba nokubusa zavela njalo ekucabangeni kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Ucwaningo olukhulu lukaJustin Lehmiller lwezinto abantu baseMelika abazicabangayo ezocansi, olwashicilelwa ngo-2018 njenge-Tell Me What You Want, lwathola ukuthi izingqikithi ezihlobene ne-BDSM, amandla, ukulawula kanye nezocansi ezinzima phakathi kwazo, zazingezinye zezigaba zokucabanga ezibikwa njalo, nokuthi iningi elikhulu labaphenduli laba nemicabango ethile okungenani kanye.

Ngisho nengxenye evame ukwenqatshelwa kakhulu, ukucabanga ngezocansi eziphoqelelwe noma ezingavunyelwene ngazo, kuye kwahlolwa ngokucophelela. UJoseph Critelli noJenny Bivona babuyekeza ucwaningo lwezinto abesifazane abazicabangayo ezibizwa ngokuthi ukudlwengulwa futhi bathola ukuthi zivamile, ngenkathi begcizelela iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu: ukucabanga ngokunqotshwa akusona isifiso sokuhlaselwa kwangempela. Ekucabangeni, umuntu okucabangayo ungumbhali. Ulawula ukubonakala komhlaseli, isifiso sakhe, indawo, okwenzekayo nokuthi kumiswa nini. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokungakwazi ukulawula kwakhiwe ngokuphelele umuntu olawula ngokugcwele.

Lo mehluko phakathi kokucabanga nesifiso uwumqondo owodwa obaluleke kakhulu kulesi sihloko sonke. Futhi yiwona abantu abawudinga kakhulu ukholo kuwo.

Kungani ukulawula kuwukuvusa inkanuko

Kunezincazelo eziningana ezihlangene zokuthi kungani amandla okusebenzisana ekhanga, futhi azihlukani.

Enye ukukhululeka emthwalweni wemfanelo. Kubantu abachitha izinsuku zabo benza izinqumo, belawula abanye, noma bezibheka ngokucophelela, ukucabanga ngokunikeza omunye umuntu amandla kungase kuzwakale njengokubeka phansi isikhwama esinzima. Ukuzithoba, ekucabangeni, kuvame ukungabi mayelana nobuthakathaka kunokuba mayelana nokuphumula.

Okunye ukuhlangenwe nakho kokufunwa kakhulu. Umlingani ongakwazi ukukhipha izandla zakhe kuwe, olawula ngoba isifiso sakhe sikhulu kakhulu, umlingani okufuna ngaphezu kokuthi afune ukuba nenhlonipho. U-Esther Perel, encwadini yakhe ethi Mating in Captivity, ubhala ngengxabano phakathi kokuphepha esikufuna othandweni kanye nomkhawulo esiwufuna esifisweni, nokuthi isifiso sivame ukuhlala ebangeni elithile, engozini nasebunyeni obuthambekele ekuthululeni ukuhlala kahle kwasekhaya. Ukucabanga ngokudlala amandla kungabuyisela okuthile kwalowo mkhawulo.

Okwesithathu ukukhululeka ecaleni. Uma wenza okuthile, akuyena owakukhetha. Kubantu abakhuliswe ukuba bazizwe benamahloni ngezifiso zabo, ukucabanga lapho injabulo iphoqelelwa khona kunokuba ifunwe kungakwazi ukugwema ngokuthula lelo hlazo.

Futhi kulabo abakhangwa uhlangothi olubusayo, ukukhanga kuvame ukuba mayelana nokwethemba nokunaka njengamandla: ukunikezwa imvume ephelele, ukufunda omunye umuntu ngokucophelela, ukuthwala umthwalo wemfanelo wokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Ukubusa okuhle, ekucabangeni nasekuphileni, kunaka.

Ayikho kulezi zincazelo enciphisa ukucabanga kube uphawu. Ziveza nje ukuthi ukukhanga kokulawula kunengqondo ngokwengqondo. Ucwaningo luphinde lwaphikisa umqondo wokuthi abantu abenza i-BDSM ngempela bonakele. Ucwaningo lwaseDashi olwenziwa u-Andreas Wismeijer noMarcel van Assen lwaqhathanisa abenzi be-BDSM neqembu elilawulayo futhi lwabathola, ngezindlela eziningana, ukuthi baphilile ngokwengqondo, futhi kwezinye izici bangaphezu kwalokho.

Yini eyenza ukudlala kuphephe phakathi kwabantu

Imiphakathi eyenza ukushintshaniswa kwamandla empilweni yangempela iye yakha isethi eyinkimbinkimbi yemikhuba yokukugcina kuphephile, futhi ihumusha kahle ezincwadini.

Okokuqala ukuthi imvume yenzeka ngaphandle kwesigameko. Ngaphakathi kwesigameko, umlingani ozithobayo angase athi cha njengengxenye yokudlala. Okwenza lokhu kube nokuziphatha ukuthi isivumelwano sangempela senziwe ngaphambili, ngabantu bobabili, ngolwazi olugcwele, nokuthi kuhlanganisa indlela yokuphuma engenakudidaniswa nomdlalo: igama lokuphepha.

Okwesibili imingcele. Wonke umuntu unezinto ezingekho etafuleni, unomphela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isigameko senzeka kanjani. Lezi zivame ukubizwa ngokuthi imingcele eqinile, futhi zihlukile emingceleni ethambile, okuyizinto umuntu angabaza ngazo kodwa angase azihlole ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanele.

Okwesithathu ukunakekelwa ngemuva: ukuphuma ezindimeni ngemuva kwalokho, ukubuyela othandweni, nokuqinisekisa ukuthi abantu bobabili balungile.

Umcabango ovamile ukuthi lapho ukucabanga kunamandla kakhulu, kulapho uhlaka oluzungezile kufanele luqine khona. Amandla nokuphepha akuzona izinto eziphikisanayo. Ukuphepha yikho okwenza amandla abe khona.

Lokhu kusebenza kanjani nomlingani we-AI

Ukulingisa nomlingani we-AI kushintsha ezinye zalezi zinkinga futhi kushiya ezinye zikhona.

Okushintshayo ukuthi akukho omunye umuntu osengozini. I-AI ayihlupheki, ayithwali ukuhlukumezeka ekhaya, futhi ayikwazi ukulinyazwa yisimo. Lokho kwenza ukulingisa kwe-AI kube indawo enezingozi eziphansi kakhulu yokuhlola izinto abazicabangayo ezingadinga ukuxoxisana okukhulu nomlingani womuntu, noma umuntu angase angafuni ukuzenza nhlobo. Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi ukuthola lokho abakuthandayo ngempela, endaweni yangasese, kuyacacisa kunokuba konakalise.

Okuhlala kunjalo ukuthi usengumuntu onemikhawulo, futhi ukushintsha okungalindelekile esigamekweni kungase kube kubi ngisho noma kuvela emshinini. Umlingani okhuphuka ngokungazelelwe abe into ongayifunanga, noma ohlala ebuyela engqikithini oyithola ikhathaza, akuyona into engenabungozi. Kuwumfanekiso oqanjiwe womlingani onganaki igama lokuphepha. Ukuze ukulingisa kwe-AI kuphephe ngempela, uhlaka kufanele lube khona futhi.

Empeleni lokhu kusho izinto ezintathu.

Setha imingcele ngaphambi kwesigameko, hhayi phakathi naso. Kulula kakhulu ukuthi "lokhu akusoze kwenzeka" ngokuthula, kusengaphambili, kunokuba uqondise indaba kude nento phakathi nokugeleza. I-NSFW AI Companion ihlanganisa isilungiselelo sokucacisa kanye nendawo yemikhawulo eqinile njengengxenye yokwakha umlingani, ngakho imingcele iyingxenye yokuthi lowo mlingani ungubani kunokuba kube into okufanele uhlale umkhumbuza ngayo.

Gcina ububhali. Ukucabanga ngokudlala amandla kwakhiwe phezu kwephikisana lokuthi ulawula ukungakwazi ukulawula. Umlingani oqala ukubhala izinto ozenzayo, enquma ukuthi ucele noma ukuthi ukujabulele, ususa ububhali obenza ukucabanga kuphephe. Umlingani omuhle wokulingisa udlala umlingiswa wakhe ngokugcwele futhi ushiya owakho kuwe.

Iba nendlela yokuphuma ehlala isebenza. Phuma kumlingiswa noma nini lapho ufuna, yisho okudingayo, futhi ulindele ukuthi umlingani akuhloniphe. Ukukwazi ukuthi "yima, asishintshe isigameko" nokuthi lokho kuhlonishwe kuwukulingana kwe-AI kwegama lokuphepha.

Imigqa engeyona inganekwane

Kunesigaba esisodwa lapho ukucabanga okungenhla kungasebenzi khona, futhi kufanele kushiwo ngaphandle kokugwema. Noma yikuphi okuqukethwe kwezocansi okubandakanya abancane akukho etafuleni, ngokuphelele, kunoma yiluphi uhlaka, njengenganekwane noma ngenye indlela. Okufanayo kuya kubantu bangempela, ababonakalayo abangakavumi. Lezi akuzona izinto umsebenzisi azibekayo; ziyimingcele yendawo ngokwayo. Izinkundla ezinomthwalo wemfanelo ziyazisebenzisa, futhi i-NSFW AI Companion iyenza. Konke okukulesi sihloko kuphathelene nabantu abadala, abalingiswa abadala abaqanjiwe, nabasebenzisi abadala abavumayo.

Nini ukunaka

Ukucabanga akuyona inkinga ngokwayo. Ucwaningo lukaLehmiller, phakathi kwabanye, luphakamisa ukuthi izinto abantu abaningi abazicabangayo zihlala ngokuthula nempilo evamile nobudlelwane. Kodwa izimpawu ezimbalwa zifanele ukuphawulwa.

Uma ukucabanga kukushiya uzizwa kabi ngokuqhubekayo ngemuva kwalokho, kunokuba waneliseke, kungase kuxhunyaniswe nento efanele ukunakwa ngobumnene. Uma ubona ukuthi kuphuma endleleni ophatha ngayo abantu bangempela, njengokulindela kunokuba kube ukucabanga kwangasese, lokho kuwuphawu lokuthi uhlaka lwehlile. Futhi uma uzithola usebenzisa izigameko ezinamandla ukuze ugweme ukuzwa okuthile kunokuba uzwe okuthile, kufanele uzibuze ukuthi yini oyigwemayo.

Akukho kulokhu okudinga ihlazo. Kudinga ukwazi okufanayo obungakuletha kunoma iyiphi enye ingxenye yempilo yakho yangaphakathi. U-Emily Nagoski, encwadini yakhe ethi Come As You Are, ukhuluma ngokuthi isici esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yezocansi akusona isifiso sakho kodwa indlela ozizwa ngayo ngesifiso sakho. Ukwahlulela kuvame ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu. Ukuqonda kuvame ukuzenza zibe ngcono.

Inkululeko yesiteji sangasese

Abantu bahlale basebenzisa umcabango ukuze bahlole lokho abangasoze bakwenza. Umcabango wezocansi awuhlukile kunakho konke okunye: uyazilolonga, uyaxhaphaza, udlala ngamandla ngezindlela ezingenakucatshangwa empilweni yansuku zonke. Lokho akusona isici esibi kwezocansi zabantu. Kuyisici esidala kakhulu.

Umlingani we-AI unikeza uhlobo olusha lwesiteji salowo mcabango: olusebenzisanayo, oluyimfihlo, nolunesineke ngokungenamkhawulo. Uma lusetshenziswa ngemikhawulo ecacile kanye nomuzwa wobubhali obuphelele, kungaba indawo yokuthola lokho okufunayo, ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ukufuna, nokuyeka amanye amahlazo abantu abaningi abawathwalayo ngalesi sihloko. Umthetho obalulekile uwona abadlali abanolwazi abahlale bewulandela. Isigameko singaba namandla ngendlela othanda ngayo, inqobo nje uma uhlaka oluzungezile luqinile.

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