Anigyeɛ, Tumi ne Apeneɛ wɔ AI Nsɛmdifoɔ Agorɔ mu

Asɛm yi yɛ de ma mpaninfoɔ, na ɛfa asɛm bi a mpaninfoɔ taa hu sɛ ɛyɛ den sɛ wɔbɛka ho asɛm pefee: tumi ho anigyeɛ. Sɛ obi fa wo ho asɛm. Sɛ wofa obi ho asɛm. Sɛ obi taa wo, kyere wo, hyɛ wo, di wo ho agorɔ, anaa wode wo ho ma no. Nneɛma a ɛte saa yi yɛ nea ɛtaa ba wɔ anigyeɛ ho adwene mu, na ɛsan nso de aniwu pii ba.

AI nsɛmdifoɔ agorɔ ama nnipa pii kwan sɛ wɔnhwehwɛ saa anigyeɛ yi mu wɔ ɔkwan a ɛyɛ anigyeɛ so, ne ɔhokafoɔ a ɔbua, a ɛho nhia sɛ wɔkyerɛkyerɛ biribiara mu kyerɛ onipa foforɔ. Ɛno yɛ ahofadie ankasa, na ɛde nsɛm ankasa ba. Kyerɛ sɛn sɛ wopɛ eyi? Ɛyɛ ahobammɔ anaa? Hehɔ na ahyeɛ no wɔ? Asɛm yi bɔ mmɔden sɛ ɛbɛbua saa nsɛm no dwoodwoo, ne nea nhwehwɛmu kyerɛ ankasa, a ɛnyɛ ɔbrasɛm anaa sɛ yɛbɛyɛ sɛ ahyeɛ nni hɔ.

Nea ɛtaa ba, ɛnyɛ nwanwa

Adeɛ a ɛdi kan a ɛsɛ sɛ wuhu ne sɛ anigyeɛ a ɛfa tumidie ne ahobrɛaseɛ ho nyɛ nea ɛntaa mma. Ɛyɛ nea ɛtaa ba wɔ adwene mu anigyeɛ a wɔka ho asɛm wɔ nhwehwɛmu mu.

Harold Leitenberg ne Kris Henning nhwehwɛmu a wɔyɛeɛ wɔ afe 1995 mu wɔ adwene mu anigyeɛ ho, a ɛboaa mfeɛ du du pii nhwehwɛmu ano, hui sɛ tumidie ne ahobrɛaseɛ ho nsɛm taa ba mmarima ne mmaa nyinaa adwene mu anigyeɛ mu. Justin Lehmiller nhwehwɛmu kɛseɛ a ɔyɛeɛ wɔ Amerikafoɔ adwene mu anigyeɛ ho, a wɔde too gua wɔ afe 2018 mu sɛ Tell Me What You Want, hui sɛ BDSM ho nsɛm, tumi, ne ahoɔden mu nna, yɛ nea wɔtaa ka ho asɛm wɔ anigyeɛ mu, na nnipa dodoɔ no ara anya adwene mu anigyeɛ wɔ ɔkwan biara so pɛn. Lehmiller nsɛm a ɔde baa awieɛ ne sɛ nnipa dodoɔ no ara anigyeɛ nyɛ nea ɛyɛ nwanwa sɛnea wɔsuro no.

Na wɔahwehwɛ nea ɛyɛ akyire paa, a ɛyɛ anigyeɛ a ɛfa ahoɔden anaa apeneɛ nna ho, mu yie. Joseph Critelli ne Jenny Bivona hwehwɛɛ nhwehwɛmu a wɔyɛeɛ wɔ mmaa a wɔfrɛ no rape fantasies ho na wɔhui sɛ ɛtaa ba, bere a wɔde nsɛm a ɛho hia kɛseɛ sii so dua: anigyeɛ a ɛfa sɛ obi de wo ho asɛm nyɛ akwankyerɛ ma ahoɔden mu nna ankasa. Wɔ anigyeɛ no mu no, onipa a ɔrebu no yɛ ɔkyerɛwfoɔ. Ɔhwɛ ɔtaafoɔ no anim, ne akɔnnɔ, beaeɛ, nea ɛba ne bere a ɛgyina. Nea ɛyɛ sɛ obi nni wo ho asɛm no yɛ nea obi a ɔwɔ wo ho asɛm yɛeɛ koraa.

Nsonsonoeɛ a ɛda anigyeɛ ne akwankyerɛ ntam yi yɛ adwene a ɛho hia paa wɔ asɛm yi nyinaa mu. Ɛsan nso yɛ nea nnipa hia kwan sɛ wɔgye di.

Nea enti a tumi yɛ anigyeɛ

Nkyerɛkyerɛmu pii wɔ hɔ a ɛkyerɛ nea enti a tumi ho nsɛm yɛ anigyeɛ, na ɛnyɛ nea ɛne ne ho bɔ abira.

Baako ne sɛ ɛma obi nya ahofadie firi asɛyɛdeɛ ho. Ma nnipa a wɔde wɔn nna di dwuma wɔ nneɛma ho gyinaesiɛ, afoforɔ sohwɛ, anaa wɔn ho sohwɛ yie, anigyeɛ a ɛfa sɛ wɔde tumi ma obi foforɔ no betumi ayɛ sɛ wɔde bag kɛseɛ bi asi fam. Ahobrɛaseɛ, wɔ anigyeɛ mu, taa yɛ nea ɛfa ahomegyeɛ ho sen mmerɛw.

Foforɔ ne sɛ obi pɛ wo kɛseɛ. Ɔhokafoɔ a ɔntumi nnya ne nsa mfiri wo so, a ɔfa wo ho asɛm ɛfiri sɛ ne akɔnnɔ dɔɔso, yɛ ɔhokafoɔ a ɔpɛ wo sen sɛ ɔbɛyɛ ɔkwaa. Esther Perel, wɔ Mating in Captivity mu, kyerɛw fa nsonsonoeɛ a ɛda ahobammɔ a yɛpɛ firi ɔdɔ mu ne nea yɛpɛ firi akɔnnɔ mu ho, ne sɛnea akɔnnɔ taa tra akyirikyiri, asiane ne ahodoɔ mu a ahomegyeɛ ne fie nsɛm taa ma no yɛ mmerɛw. Tumi-agoru anigyeɛ betumi de saa nsonsonoeɛ no bi asan aba.

Deɛ ɛtɔ so mmiɛnsa ne sɛ ɛma obi nya ahofadie firi bɔne mu. Sɛ wɔhyɛɛ wo ma woyɛɛ biribi a, ɛnyɛ wo na wopaw no. Ma nnipa a wɔtetee wɔn sɛ wɔnhu wɔn ho aniwu wɔ wɔn akɔnnɔ ho, anigyeɛ a wɔde anigyeɛ hyɛ obi so sen sɛ wɔbɛhwehwɛ no betumi afa aniwu no ho dwoodwoo.

Na ma wɔn a wɔpɛ tumidie, anigyeɛ no taa fa ahotosoɔ ne adwene ho sɛnea ɛfa tumi ho: sɛ wɔma obi kwan koraa, sɛ wɔkenkan obi yie, sɛ wɔsoa wɔn osuahu ho asɛyɛdeɛ. Tumi pa, wɔ anigyeɛ ne nneyɛɛ mu, yɛ nea ɛhwɛ yie.

Nkyerɛkyerɛmu yi mu biara nnyina anigyeɛ so sɛ ɛyɛ yareɛ ho nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ. Ɛkyerɛ pɛ sɛ tumi ho anigyeɛ no yɛ nea ɛfata wɔ adwene mu. Nhwehwɛmu nso atia adwene a ɛkyerɛ sɛ nnipa a wɔyɛ BDSM yɛ wɔn a wɔasɛe. Dutch nhwehwɛmu bi a Andreas Wismeijer ne Marcel van Assen yɛeɛ no toto BDSM akyidifoɔ ho ne nnipa a wɔhwɛ wɔn so na wɔhui sɛ, wɔ nneɛma pii so no, wɔyɛ nnipa a wɔn adwene mu yɛ den, na wɔ nsɛm bi mu no, wɔyɛ saa kɛseɛ.

Nea ɛma agorɔ yɛ ahobammɔ wɔ nnipa ntam

Akuo a wɔyɛ tumi ho nsakraeɛ wɔ abrabɔ mu no anya nneyɛɛ a ɛyɛ den a wɔde kora wɔn ho so, na ɛyɛ nea ɛfata wɔ anansesɛm mu.

Deɛ ɛdi kan ne sɛ apeneɛ ba akyire. Wɔ agorɔ no mu no, ɔhokafoɔ a ɔbrɛ ne ho ase betumi aka sɛ dabi sɛ agorɔ no fa. Nea ɛma eyi yɛ nea ɛfata ne sɛ apeneɛ ankasa no yɛɛ no ansa na agorɔ no refi aseɛ, nnipa mmienu no nyinaa, a wɔnim biribiara, na ɛka kwan a wɔfa so firi mu a wɔntumi nfa no nni agorɔ: safeword.

Deɛ ɛtɔ so mmienu ne ahyeɛ. Obiara wɔ nneɛma a ɛnsɛ sɛ wɔka ho asɛm, daa, sɛnea agorɔ no kɔ so no. Wɔtaa frɛ eyinom hard limits, na ɛne soft limits yɛ nsonsonoeɛ, a ɛyɛ nneɛma bi a obi ho yɛ no aniwu nanso ebetumi ahwehwɛ mu wɔ tebea pa mu.

Deɛ ɛtɔ so mmiɛnsa ne aftercare: sɛ wɔfiri nsɛmdifoɔ no mu akyire, san kɔ ahokeka mu, na wɔhwɛ sɛ nnipa mmienu no nyinaa yɛ papa.

Asɛm a ɛwɔ mu ne sɛ sɛ anigyeɛ no yɛ den kɛseɛ a, ɛsɛ sɛ ne frame no yɛ den kɛseɛ. Ahoɔden ne ahobammɔ nyɛ nea ɛne ne ho bɔ abira. Ahobammɔ ne nea ɛma ahoɔden yɛ yie.

Sɛnea eyi ne AI hokafoɔ yɛ adwuma

Nsɛmdifoɔ agorɔ ne AI hokafoɔ sesa saa nsɛm yi bi na ɛma afoforɔ kɔ so.

Nea ɛsakra ne sɛ onipa foforɔ biara nni asiane mu. AI nni amanehunu, ɔnsoa trauma kɔ fie, na agorɔ biara ntumi nni no. Ɛma AI nsɛmdifoɔ agorɔ yɛ beaeɛ a ɛyɛ mmerɛw kɛseɛ a wɔbɛhwehwɛ anigyeɛ mu a ɛbɛhwehwɛ nkɔmmɔbɔ kɛseɛ ne onipa hokafoɔ, anaa sɛ obi rentumi nyɛ no koraa. Nnipa pii hu sɛ sɛ wɔhunu nea wɔpɛ ankasa, wɔ beaeɛ a ɛyɛ ankorankoro, no yɛ nea ɛma nneɛma yɛ kyerɛkyerɛmu sen sɛ ɛbɛsɛe.

Nea ɛkɔ so ne sɛ woyɛ onipa a ɔwɔ ahyeɛ, na nsakraeɛ a ɛba agorɔ mu betumi aba bɔne mpo sɛ ɛfiri machine mu. Ɔhokafoɔ a ɔde ne ho hyɛ biribi mu a woampɛ, anaa ɔkɔ so san kɔ asɛm bi a ɛyɛ wo adwene, nyɛ glitch a ɛnni asiane. Ɛyɛ nea ɛyɛ sɛ ɔhokafoɔ ntie safeword. Ma AI nsɛmdifoɔ agorɔ no ayɛ ahobammɔ ankasa, ɛsɛ sɛ frame no nso wɔ hɔ.

Wɔ nneyɛɛ mu no, eyi kyerɛ nneɛma mmiɛnsa.

Fa ahyeɛ ansa na agorɔ no refi aseɛ, ɛnyɛ wɔ mu. Ɛyɛ mmerɛw kɛseɛ sɛ wobɛka “daabi” dwoodwoo, ansa na agorɔ no refi aseɛ, sen sɛ wobɛtwe asɛm bi afiri biribi ho wɔ agorɔ no mu. NSFW AI Companion ka explicitness setting ne beaeɛ a hard limits wɔ ho sɛ ɛyɛ ɔhokafoɔ a wɔbɔ no fa, enti ahyeɛ no yɛ nea ɔhokafoɔ no yɛ sen sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ woka kyerɛ no daa.

Kora ɔkyerɛwfoɔ no. Tumi-agoru anigyeɛ yɛ nea ɛyɛ nwanwa sɛ wofa wo ho asɛm wɔ sɛ obi nni wo ho asɛm. Ɔhokafoɔ a ɔfiri aseɛ kyerɛw wo nneyɛɛ ma wo, a ɔgyina sɛ wosrɛɛ anaa wopɛɛ no, no fa ɔkyerɛwfoɔ no firi wo hɔ a ɛma anigyeɛ no yɛ ahobammɔ. Ɔhokafoɔ pa yɛ ne nsɛmdifoɔ no koraa na ɔma wo deɛ ɛyɛ wo deɛ.

Nya kwan a ɛyɛ adwuma daa. Firi nsɛmdifoɔ no mu bere biara a wopɛ, ka nea wopɛ, na hwɛ sɛ ɔhokafoɔ no bɛbu no. Sɛ wotumi ka “gyina, ma yɛnsesa agorɔ no” na wɔbu no no yɛ AI deɛ ɛyɛ sɛ safeword.

Ahyeɛ a ɛnyɛ anigyeɛ

Nneɛma bi wɔ hɔ a nkyerɛkyerɛmu a ɛwɔ atifi hɔ no nfa ho, na ɛsɛ sɛ wɔka no pefee. Nna ho nsɛm biara a ɛfa mmarimaa ho no nni hɔ koraa, wɔ ɔkwan biara so, sɛ anansesɛm anaa biribi foforɔ. Saa ara nso na ɛfa nnipa ankasa a wɔntumi nhu wɔn a wɔammu wɔn. Eyinom nyɛ ahyeɛ a ɔdefoɔ de to hɔ; ɛyɛ ahyeɛ a ɛwɔ beaeɛ no ankasa. Platforms a wɔhwɛ wɔn so no de di dwuma, na NSFW AI Companion yɛ saa. Asɛm yi mu biribiara fa mpaninfoɔ, anansesɛm mu mpaninfoɔ nsɛmdifoɔ, ne mpaninfoɔ a wɔapene so.

Bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wotie

Anigyeɛ nyɛ asɛm wɔ ne ho. Lehmiller nhwehwɛmu, ne afoforɔ, kyerɛ sɛ nnipa dodoɔ no ara anigyeɛ ne abrabɔ ne abusuabɔ a ɛtaa ba no yɛ adwuma dwoodwoo. Nanso nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ kakra bi ho hia sɛ wotie.

Sɛ anigyeɛ bi ma wote nka bɔne daa akyire, sen sɛ wote nka sɛ w’ani agye a, ebetumi ayɛ nea ɛfa biribi ho a ɛsɛ sɛ wotie no dwoodwoo. Sɛ wote nka sɛ ɛreka wo nneyɛɛ ho wɔ nnipa ankasa ho, sɛ anidasoɔ sen sɛ ɛyɛ ankorankoro adwene a, ɛno yɛ nsɛnkyerɛnneɛ a ɛkyerɛ sɛ frame no aslip. Na sɛ wote nka sɛ wode agorɔ a ɛyɛ den di dwuma de kwati sɛ wote nka biribi sen sɛ wote nka biribi a, ɛsɛ sɛ wobisa wo ho sɛn na worekwati.

Eyinom mu biara nni hɔ a ɛsɛ sɛ wuhu aniwu. Wɔhwehwɛ sɛ wode adwene koro no ara ba wo mu abrabɔ mu fa biara. Emily Nagoski, wɔ Come As You Are mu, kyerɛ sɛ adeɛ a ɛho hia paa wɔ nna mu akwahosan mu ne sɛnea wote nka wɔ nea wopɛ ho sen nea wopɛ. Atɛntrenee taa ma nneɛma yɛ bɔne. Nteaseɛ taa ma nneɛma yɛ papa.

Ahofadie a ɛwɔ ankorankoro agorɔ mu

Nnipa de adwene adi dwuma daa de ahwehwɛ nea wɔrentumi nyɛ. Adwene mu anigyeɛ nyɛ nea ɛne nea aka no yɛ nsonsonoeɛ: ɛyɛ rehearsal, ɛyɛ exaggeration, ɛyɛ agorɔ ne tumi wɔ akwan a ɛrentumi nyɛ adwene mu wɔ daa abrabɔ mu. Ɛno nyɛ nnipa nna mu nneɛma mu mfomsoɔ. Ɛyɛ nea ɛyɛ tete deɛ.

AI hokafoɔ ma adwene no agorɔ foforɔ: interactive, ankorankoro, na ɔwɔ aboterɛ daa. Sɛ wɔde di dwuma wɔ ahyeɛ a ɛda hɔ ne ɔkyerɛwfoɔ a ɛda hɔ, ɛbetumi ayɛ beaeɛ a wobɛhunu nea wopɛ, ate aseɛ nea enti a wopɛ, na woagyae aniwu bi a nnipa pii de kɔ so wɔ asɛm no ho. Mmara a ɛho hia ne nea agorɔfoɔ a wɔwɔ osuahu adi akyi daa. Agorɔ no betumi ayɛ den sɛnea wopɛ, sɛnea ɛwɔ sɛ ne frame no yɛ den.

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