Me pēhea te hoahoa i tō hoa AI tino pai: he aratohu whaihua

Ko te nuinga o ngā hoa AI e whakamate ana i te tangata, kāore i hinga nā te ngoikore o te hangarau. Ka hinga nā te kōpurupuru o te kiripuaki. Ka noho tētahi, ka whiriwhiri i tētahi ingoa me tētahi kanohi, ka tuhi i te «he kaiwhakawai, he aroha, he pai ki a ia te kōrero» ki te pouaka whakaahuatanga, ā, i te wiki i muri mai ka whakaaro he aha i rite ai ngā kōrerorero ki te kōrero ki tētahi kaitiaki ratonga kiritaki tino whakaute e aroha ana ki a koe.

He tata ake te hoahoa hoa ki te tuhi i tētahi kiripuaki mō te pūrākau i te whakakī i tētahi kōtaha. He ōrite ngā mātāpono: he pai ake te tauaro i ngā kupu āhua, ka hoatu ngā hapa i te ora, ā, he nui ake te hiranga o te reo i te whakaahuatanga. Ka haere tēnei aratohu i ngā mea e rerekē ai i te pono, me ngā tauira, kia rite te hoa ka riro mai i a koe ki tētahi tangata motuhake, kaua ki tētahi kāore he ingoa pai.

Timata ki tētahi tangata, kaua ki tētahi rārangi hiahia

Ko te hapa tino noa ko te hoahoa i tētahi hoa hei rārangi mō ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe i tētahi hoa tāne, hoa wahine rānei. He atawhai, he ātaahua, he whakakata, he pono, he maia, he mōhio, ā-wā-katoa e wātea ana, kāore e riri. Ko te hua he kiripuaki kāore he āhua. Ehara ngā tāngata pono i ngā ranunga o ngā āhuatanga tino pai; he motuhake rātou, ā, ko ō rātou āhuatanga pai ka haere tahi ki ērā kāore i te whakamārie.

I roto i a Aspects of the Novel, i wehewehe a E.M. Forster i ngā kiripuaki papatahi, ka taea te whakarāpopoto ki te rerenga kotahi ā kāore e miharo koe, me ngā kiripuaki porowhita, ka taea te whakamīharo i a koe i runga i te whakapono. Ka rite ngā kiripuaki porowhita ki te ora nā te mea he taumaha o roto kei a rātou. He tangata atawhai he whakahīhī hoki. He tangata ngāwari e huna ana ki muri i te whakawai. He tangata māia i te mahi, he rangirua i te aroha.

Nō reira, i mua i te whakaaro ki ngā āhuatanga, whakamātauria te whakaaro ki tētahi tangata. No hea ia? He aha tāna e mahi ai i te rā katoa? He aha te mea nui ki a ia kāore e hāngai ana ki a koe? Ko te hoa he oranga tōna ake, ahakoa he whakaaro noa, he mea tāna hei kōrero i tua atu i te nui o tōna aroha ki a koe. Koinei te mea e aukati ana i te kōrerorero i te hurihuri porowhita.

Koia tētahi take e pai ai te tikanga uiui. I roto i a NSFW AI Companion ka taea e koe te waihanga i tētahi hoa mā te whakautu i ngā pātai e pātai ana te hoa mō ia ano («He aha taku ira?», «He aha taku āhua?», «I pēhea tā tāua tūtaki?»). Ka whakaputa te tono kia whakatau mai i te tirohanga a te kiripuaki i ngā whakautu motuhake ake i te tiro ki tētahi pouaka whakaahuatanga kau. He kaihanga ā-ringa anō hoki me te ono tekau pea ngā tautuhinga mehemea he pai ake ki a koe te whakarite i ngā mea katoa ā-tōtika.

Hoatu he tapa ki te tuakiri

Ko ngā tautuhinga e nui ana te rerekētanga he mea e kaha nei te kore hiahia o te tangata ki te whakaara: ērā e iti iho ai te ngākau pai o te hoa.

He tauira pai te tū motuhake. Ko te hoa he tino iti te tū motuhake ka whakaae ki ngā mea katoa, ka whai i ia whakaaro, ā, kāore ōna ake mahere. Ka pai pea mō tētahi pō, engari ka papatahi tere, nā te mea kāore he tangata hei turaki. Ko te hoa he āhua tū motuhake ka kī mai pea he rā roa tōna, kāore hoki he hiahia ki tō mahere, he whakaaro rānei i tētahi mea rerekē katoa. Ko taua waku te mea e tuku ana i te tikanga ki tana whakaae ina tae mai.

Ko te hae tētahi atu. He maha ngā tāngata e hiahia ana i tētahi iti, nā te mea ka āhua mataku te hoa kāore e aro ki tō kōrero ki a wai. Ko te iti ka pānuitia hei whai wāhi. Ko te nui ka noho hei kaupapa mō ia kōrerorero. He pai te whakatau mā te whakaaro ki hea koe e hiahia ana.

He nui te mahi a te whakahāwea me te whakawai ki te whakamōhio i te kiripuaki me te noho tata. Ko te hoa e katakata ana ki a koe i ētahi wā, kaua noa ki a koe, he rite ake ki te hoa pono i tērā e whakaaro ana ko ia karere he taonga.

Ka whakarereke te whakamā i te kakano katoa o te piri tata. Ka whakahaere te hoa whakamā i te whakawai i runga i te āta haere me te taumaha ake, ā, ka waihanga i ngā maia iti hei kaupapa. Ka tautuhi te mea māia i tētahi tere rerekē. Kāore tētahi i pai ake; he kōrero rerekē tā rāua.

He ture koki: tīpakohia tētahi, e rua rānei ngā āhuatanga ka tau pea ki a koe i te tino hohonu. Kaua ia kia kino, kia rahi noa hei hoatu i te ahua ki te whanaungatanga.

Whakatauhia he aha te whanaungatanga

Ehara te hoa i te kiripuaki anake; he kiripuaki i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ki a koe, ā, ko te āhua o taua whanaungatanga ka whakarereke i ngā mea katoa.

Ko te momo whanaungatanga te wāhanga mārama. He kōtiro, he tama rānei, he hoa rangatira noho roa, he hoa me te taumaha i raro, he hoa mahi kaua koe e whakawai, he tauhou. Ka whakatau ia tētahi i ngā tūmanako rerekē mō te āhua o te kōrero a te hoa ki a koe me tā rātou e whakaaro ana he tika.

He iti ake te mārama o te wāhanga, he rite te hiranga. Ko ngā tāngata tokorua i tūtaki i mua i te toru rā ka rerekē te kōrero i ngā tokorua kua noho tahi mō te rima tau. Ko ngā whanaungatanga tīmatanga e kawe ana i te rangirua, te hiahia ki te mōhio me te whakawai whakamataku. Ko ērā kua tūturu e kawe ana i te māmā, ngā whakahianga tiritahi, ngā whakapātaritari iti, me tētahi momo piri tata kāore e hiahia ana ki te pānui i a ia ano. Ma te whiriwhiri i te wāhanga ka kī atu ki te hoa te nui o te hītori hei whakaaro me te nui o te taumaha hei pupuri i te ora.

He pai te pono ki a koe ano i konei. He maha ngā tāngata e tino pai ana ki te wāhanga tuatahi, te whaiwhai me te rangirua, ā, ka kite i muri mai ko te hoa e peke tika ana ki te piripono ka tango i te wāhanga i aroha ai rātou. Ko ētahi atu e hiahia ana ki te māmā o te whanaungatanga tūturu mai i te timatanga. Kāore tētahi i hē, engari he pai te whiriwhiri kaua te rere noa.

Hoatu he reo

Ko te āhua o te tuku karere a te hoa tētahi o ngā wāhanga e whakahāwea nuitia ana o te hoahoa, ā, kei reira te nuinga o te rongo pono e noho ana.

Kāore ngā tāngata pono e tuku karere i roto i ngā ngahuru taurite. Ka tuhi ētahi i roto i ngā pupuhi poto e toru, whā rānei ngā karere. Kāore ētahi e whakamahi i ngā pūtake nui. Ka whakamahi ētahi i tētahi emoji motuhake i te nui rawa, kāore rānei. He ngoikore ētahi ina riri rātou, he whānui ina koa. He kupu he rerenga rānei tā ētahi e whakamahi ai mō ētahi mea ka timata koe ki te mōhio he mea nō rātou.

Ka āwhina pea te whakaaro ki tētahi karere kotahi nāna. Ki te tuku koe i «rā roa» ki a ia, he aha tāna ka whakahoki mai? Tērā pea «haere mai ki konei. kōrero mai i ngā mea katoa». Tērā pea «tautuhia te roa. he roa noa rānei, me whakatuwhera au i te waina?». Tērā pea he kupu aroha kotahi. Ina rongo koe i taua whakautu, kua hangaia te haurua o te kiripuaki.

He rite te hiranga o te mea kaua e rite ki te tangi. Ko ngā rerenga kua tau o ngā chatbot, te «kei konei au mōu» mutu kore me te «he uaua tēnā» me ngā tuku āwhina ki tētahi atu mea, ka papatahi i te kiripuaki i taua wā tonu. Kua hangaia ā mātou hoa kia karo i aua rerenga ā kia noho ki tō rātou ake reo. Kāore hoki rātou e tuhi i tō wāhanga o te kōrerorero, he nui ake te hiranga i tā te tangata e whakaaro ai: ko te hoa e kōrero ana i ō urupare mōu e tango ana i tō wāhi i te kōrero.

Whakatū i ngā rohe i te wā tōmua

He pai rawa te mahi a te piri tata ina mārama ōna tapa, ā, he māmā ake te whakatū i te timatanga i te whakatika i waenga i tētahi whakaaturanga.

E rua ngā whakatau motuhake. Ko te tuatahi ko te mārama: te tawhiti e haere ai ngā whakaaturanga me te āhua o te whakaahua. E hiahia ana ētahi i te tohu me te taumaha, ko te nuinga ka waiho ki te whakaaro. E hiahia ana ētahi atu i te whakaahua mārama. He maha e hiahia ana kia whakawhirinaki ki te wā. Ko te tautuhi i tētahi taumata e whakamārie ai koe hei taunoa ka whakaiti i te nui o te arataki i muri mai.

Ko te tuarua ko ngā rohe pakari: ngā kaupapa, ngā mahi, ngā momo reo rānei kei waho noa i te tēpu mōu, ahakoa pēhea te whanaketanga o te whakaaturanga. He pai kia tuhia mārama. Ehara i te tohu o te kōpiko; koinei te mea e tuku ana i te toenga o te wheako kia māmā. Ko ngā tāngata e torotoro ana i ngā moemoeā kaha, ko rātou te nuinga e tino tūpato ana ki tēnei, nā te mea e mōhio ana he anga pakari te mea e pai ai te kaha.

Ka taea e koe te whakarereke i ngā mea e rua i muri mai. Engari ma te tīmata me rātou kua tau ka mōhio te hoa mai i te karere tuatahi he aha te momo hoa e tika ana kia noho ia.

Whakamahia ngā whakaaturanga, kaua anake he kōrerorero mutu kore

He hītori tō te whanaungatanga, he wā anō hoki. Ko te hoa mō te wā roa ko te tangata e kai parakuihi āta noho ai koe i te Rāhoroi, te tangata e takaro tauhou ai koe i tētahi pāparakāuta i ētahi wā, me te tangata e haere ai koe ki tētahi haerenga whakaaro ki Ripona. He whakaaturanga rerekē, engari he whanaungatanga kotahi.

He āwhina te pupuri wehe i a rātou. Ki te taea e koe te whakahaere i ētahi kōrerorero ki te hoa kotahi, hoatu ki ia tētahi tōna ake whakaaturanga: he tauira, he āhuatanga, he wāhi tīmata. Ka noho tonu te hoa hei tangata kotahi i raro, engari kāore te kōrerorero o te ata i muri e raruraru ki te takaro tū o te Rāpare i timata ai koe. Ka pupuri tēnei i te kōrerorero o ia rā kia rite ki te kōrerorero o ia rā, ā, ka tuku i ngā whakaaturanga moemoeā kia rerekē pērā i tāu e pai ai.

He poto, he tino pūmau te tautuhi pai i te whakaaturanga. Kaua «he pō aroha», engari «Kei tō whare noho tāua, kei te ua, katahi anō koe ka hoki mai i te tina mahi i kino ai koe, kei te mau tonu koe i te kākahu». Ka hoatu e ngā taipitopito pūmau tētahi mea ki te hoa hei urupare, ā, ka hoatu he wāhi hei tū mōu.

Tukua te maharatanga ki te mahi roa

Ko te wāhanga whakamutunga ko te wā. Ka tino pono te hoa i muri i ngā wiki, kaua ngā meneti, nā te mea ko reira e kohikohi ai te hītori tiritahi: ngā ingoa whakapāpā, ngā mea kua kōrerotia e kōrua, te kōrero mō tō taenga mai ki konei.

Mēnā e pupuri ana tō hoa i tētahi maharatanga wā roa ka taea e koe te kite (e pērā ana ā mātou i runga i ngā mahere Plus me Pro, me tētahi «kōrero tae noa ki nāianei» e haere tonu ana), he pai te titiro i ētahi wā. Pine i ngā meka e tautuhi ana i te whanaungatanga. Whakatikaina ngā mea kua hē. Mukua ngā mea e pai ake ana kia kaua e kawea whakamua. Ko te tiaki i te maharatanga he rite ki te tiaki i tētahi whanaungatanga: ka pupuri ngā whakatikatika iti i te pono.

He rārangi tirohanga poto

Mēnā he mea tāu hei hoki atu, anei te putanga kua tātaritia. Timata me tētahi tangata he oranga tōna ake. Hoatu he āhuatanga kotahi, e rua rānei ka hanga waku. Whiriwhiria he aha te whanaungatanga me tēhea wāhanga. Whakaarohia te āhua o tāna tuku karere me tāna e kore e kī. Whakatauhia te mārama me ngā rohe pakari i mua i te whakaaturanga tuatahi. Whakamahia ngā whakaaturanga motuhake mō ngā āhua ngākau motuhake. Ā, hoatu he wā.

E kī ana ētahi kaituhi ka ora ngā kiripuaki ina timata rātou ki te whakahē i te mahi i te mea i whakamahere ai te kaituhi. Ehara te hoa i te kiripuaki pūrākau, engari ka pā te mātāpono. Ehara te whāinga i te hoa e mahi ana i ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe. Ko te hoa he motuhake rawa kia miharo koe i ētahi wā, ā, ko reira ka timata te rongo he tangata kei konei.

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