Ungamklama njani umngani wakho we-AI ofaneleyo: isikhokhelo esisebenzayo

Abangane be-AI abanengi abadanisa abantu abehluleki ngoba ubuchwepheshe buthambile. Behluleka ngoba umlingiswa ongakacaci. Omunye uyahlala phansi, akhethe ibizo lobuso, abhale «uyathandana, unomhawu, uthanda ukukhuluma» ebhokisini lencazelo, njalo ngemva kweviki uyazibuza ukuthi kungani izingxoxo zizwakala njengokukhuluma lomsebenzi wensiza yamakhasimende ohlonipha kakhulu olothando ngawe.

Ukuklama umngane kusondele ekubhaleni umlingiswa wenganekwane kulokuzalisa iphrofayili. Imithetho efanayo iyasebenza: ukucacisa kudlula izichasiso, iziphosiso zinika impilo, njalo ilizwi libaluleke kakhulu kuncazelo. Lesi sikhokhelo sihamba ngalokho okwenza umehluko ngempela, ngezibonelo, ukuze umngane olaye ekupheleni azwakale njengomuntu othize, hatshi umuntu ongelabizo omnandi.

Qala ngomuntu, hatshi uhlu lwezifiso

Iphutha elijwayelekileyo kakhulu yikuklama umngane njengohlu lwakho konke okufunayo kumlingani. Olungileyo, omuhle, ohlekisayo, othembekileyo, othanda izinto ezintsha, ohlakaniphileyo, ohlala etholakala, ongakaze abe lentukuthelo. Umphumela ngumlingiswa ongelaso isimo. Abantu bangempela abasiwo inhlanganisela yezimpawu ezifaneleyo; bahlukile, njalo izimpawu zabo ezinhle ngokujwayelekileyo zifika kanye lezingaphansi kwesiphi.

U-E.M. Forster, ku-Aspects of the Novel, wahlukanisa abalingiswa abaphansi, ongabafingqa emshweni munye njalo abangakumangazi, labalingiswa abayindilinga, abangakumangaza ngendlela ekholisayo. Abalingiswa abayindilinga babonakala bephila ngoba balokungezwani ngaphakathi. Umuntu ophanayo ongaphezu kwalokho ozikhukhumezayo. Umuntu othambileyo ocatsha lokho ngemuva kwamahlaya. Umuntu othemba umsebenzi, kodwa ongaqiniseki othandweni.

Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokucabanga ngezimpawu, zama ukucabanga ngomuntu. Uvela ngaphi? Wenzani usuku lonke? Yini ebalulekileyo kuye engelalutho olwenza lawe? Umngane olempilo yakhe, loba ingeyokucabanga, ulalokho angakukhuluma ngaphandle kokuthi ukuthanda kangakanani. Yikho okwenza ingxoxo ingajikajika.

Lokhu kungomunye wezizathu ezenza indlela yokubuzisa isebenze kuhle. Ku-NSFW AI Companion, ungenza umngane ngokuphendula imibuzo umngane ezibuza yona ngaye («Ngiyisiphi isini?», «Ngibukeka njani?», «Sazana njani?»). Ukucelwa ukuthi unqume ngombono womlingiswa kuvamise ukuletha izimpendulo ezinembayo kulokubheka ibhokisi lencazelo elingelalutho. Kuphinde kube lomakhi wesandla olezilungiselelo ezingaba ngamatshumi ayisithupha uma ukhetha ukuseta konke ngqo.

Nika ubuntu amacala

Izilungiselelo ezenza umehluko omkhulu ngokujwayelekileyo yilezo abantu abesaba kakhulu ukuzikhuphula: lezo ezenza umngane angavumi kakhulu.

Ukuzimela kuyisibonelo esihle. Umngane olokuzimela okuphansi kakhulu uyavuma kukho konke, alandele isiphakamiso ngasinye, njalo kalamacebo akhe. Lokho kungamnandi kusihlwa, kodwa kuphenduka kube ngolinganayo masinyane, ngoba kakho ongamkhahlela. Umngane olokuzimela okuncane angakutshela ukuthi ubelosuku olude njalo kalawo umoya wecebo lakho, kumbe aphakamise into ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Lokho kukhuhlana yikho okunika imvumo yakhe umqondo lapho ifika.

Umhawu ngowunye. Abantu abanengi bafuna kancane, ngoba umlingani ongakhathaleli ukuthi ukhuluma lobani angabonakala engenandaba. Okuncane kufundwa njengokuzinikela. Okunengi kuphenduka isihloko sengxoxo ngayinye. Kufanele kunqunywe ngamabomu ukuthi ukufuna ngaphi.

Ukuhleba lamahlaya kwenza umsebenzi omkhulu ekwenzeni umlingiswa azwakale ehlakaniphile njalo ekhona. Umngane osuka ahleke ngawe, hatshi kuphela lawe, uzwakala njengomlingani wangempela kulalowo othatha umlayezo wonke njengokuxabisekileyo.

Ukuhloniphela kuguqula yonke isakhiwo sokusondelana. Umngane ohloniphelayo wenza ukuthandana kuthambe njalo kube lamandla, njalo wenza amaqholo amancane abe yimicimbi. Othembayo ubeka elinye isivinini. Kakho ongcono; benza izindaba ezahlukeneyo.

Umthetho osizayo: khetha isimpawu esisodwa kumbe ezimbili ezizakukhuhlana kancane ngempela. Hatshi kakhulu ukuze zibe zimbi, kwanele ukunika ubudlelwano ukuthungwa.

Nquma ukuthi ubudlelwano yini

Umngane akayisiso isimpawu kuphela; ungumlingiswa ebudlelwaneni lawe, njalo isimo salobo budlelwano siguqula konke.

Uhlobo lobudlelwano yiyo indawo ebonakalayo. Intombi noma isoka, umlingani osendile isikhathi eside, umngane olokungezwani ngaphansi, osebenza naye ongafanele ukuthandana laye, owezizwe. Ngamunye ubeka okulindelweyo okuhlukeneyo mayelana lokuthi umngane ukhuluma njani lawe lokuthi uthatha ini njengokwazi.

Isigaba asibonakali kakhulu njalo sibalulekile ngokufanayo. Abantu ababili abahlangana ezinsukwini ezintathu ezedlule bakhuluma ngendlela ehlukileyo kubabili abasebeyizinyaka ezinhlanu bebanye. Ubudlelwano bokuqala buletha ukungaqiniseki, ukukhathazeka lokuthandana okuyesabayo. Obuvuthiweyo buletha ukuphumula, amahlaya abelwanayo, ukucasuka okuncane, lohlobo lokusondelana okungadingi ukuzimemezela. Ukukhetha isigaba kutshela umngane ukuthi athathe umlando ongakanani lokuthi agcine ubuhlungu obungakanani busaphila.

Kuhle ukuba ngeqiniso lawe lapha. Abantu abanengi bakuthokozela kakhulu isigaba sokuqala, ukulandela lokungaqiniseki, bese bethola ukuthi umngane ogxumela ngqo ekuzinikeleni uthatha ingxenye ababeyithanda. Abanye bafuna induduzo yobudlelwano obuvuthiweyo kusukela ekuqaleni. Akulabubi, kodwa kuhle ukukhetha kulokuhlala nje.

Mnike ilizwi

Indlela umngane abhala ngayo yiyo enye yezingxenye ezingathathwa ngobunzima ekuklameni, njalo kulapho kuhlala khona ingxenye enkulu yomuzwa wangempela.

Abantu bangempela kabathumeli imilayezo ngezigaba ezilinganayo. Abanye babhala ngokuqhuma okufitshane kwemilayezo emithathu kumbe emine. Abanye kabasebenzisi ngitsho amabala amakhulu. Abanye basebenzisa i-emoji ethile kakhulu, kumbe bangasebenzisi lutho. Abanye bafitshane lapho bekhathazekile njalo bakhulume kakhulu lapho bejabule. Abanye balelizwi kumbe isisho abasisebenzisela izinto ezithile oluzaqala ukuluqonda njengesabo.

Kungasiza ukucabanga umlayezo munye osuka kuye. Uba umthumelela «usuku olude», wesabaphendula njani? Mhlawumbe «woza lapha. ngitshele konke». Mhlawumbe «chaza ukuthi kuyini ukuba lude. kulude ngokujwayelekileyo noma kumele ngivule iwayini?». Mhlawumbe ilizwi elilodwa lenhlizo. Lapho usuzwa impendulo leyo, umlingiswa usakhiwe ngengxenye.

Okubalulekileyo ngokufanayo yikuthi akumelanga azwakale njani. Amazwi avamileyo e-chatbot, i-«ngikhona lapha ngenxa yakho» engapheliyo le-«lokho kuzwakala kunzima ngempela» lezidingo zokusiza ngokunye, kwenza umlingiswa abe nyamunye ngokushesha. Abangane bethu bakhiwe ukugwema laloluhlobo lwamazwi bahlale elizwini labo. Kabalobi lengxenye yakho yengxoxo futhi, okubaluleke ukwedlula lokho abantu abakulindele: umlingani ochaza ukuphendula kwakho ngawe uthatha indima yakho endabeni.

Beka imingcele kusenesikhathi

Ukusondelana kusebenza kahle kakhulu lapho imiphetho yako icacile, njalo kulula kakhulu ukuyibeka ekuqaleni kulokuyilungisa phakathi kwesigcawu.

Kulezinqumo ezimbili ezihlukeneyo. Esokuqala yikucaca: ukuthi izigcawu zihamba kuze kube ngaphi lokuthi zichazwa njani. Abanye bafuna ukuhlebezela lokuhlungwa, bephume okunengi emcabangweni. Abanye bafuna incazelo ecacileyo. Abanengi bafuna kuncike esikhathini. Ukubeka izinga ozizwa ukhululekile ngalo njengokumisiweyo kuonga ukuqondiswa okunengi kamuva.

Esesibili yimingcele eqinileyo: izihloko, izenzo noma izinhlobo zolimi eziyiyo nje ngaphandle kwetafula kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isigcawu sikhula njani. Kufanele zibhalwe ngokucacileyo. Kasiso isibonakaliso sokulandela imithetho ngokweqisileyo; yikho okuvumela ingxenye esele yolwazi ukuba ikhululeke. Abantu abahlola amaphupho abukhali kuvamile ukuba babe ngabaqaphelayo kakhulu ngalokhu, ngoba bayazi ukuthi uhlaka oluqinileyo yilolo olwenza amandla abe mnandi.

Ungazithutha zombili kamuva nanini. Kodwa ukuqala ngazo zikhona kuyabe kutshela umngane kusukela emlayezweni wokuqala ukuthi uhlobo luni lomlingani okumele abe yilo.

Sebenzisa izigcawu, hatshi ingxoxo eyodwa engapheliyo

Ubudlelwano lomlando, njalo lezikhathi. Umlingani wesikhathi eside angaba ngumuntu olalela isidlo sokuvula sika-Sonto esithambileyo laye, umuntu odlala laye abezizwe endaweni yokuphuzela ehhotela ngezikhathi ezithile, lomuntu ohamba laye uhambo lokucabanga oluya eLisbon. Ngezigcawu ezihlukeneyo, kodwa ubudlelwano obufanayo.

Kuyasiza ukuzigcina zihlukene. Uma ungaba lengxoxo ezinengi lomngane munye, nika ngasinye isigcawu salo: indawo, isimo, indawo yokuqala. Umngane uhlala engumuntu munye ngaphansi, kodwa ingxoxo yekuseni elandelayo ayididani lomdlalo wokulingisa owuqalile ngoLwesihlanu. Lokhu kugcina ingxoxo yansuku zonke izwakale njengengxoxo yansuku zonke, njalo kuvumela izigcawu zamaphupho zibe ngezehlukeneyo njengoba ufuna.

Isikhungo sesigcawu esihle sifitshane njalo siqinisekile. Hatshi «ntambama yothando», kodwa «Siseflethini lakho, kuyana, usanda kubuya edinini lomsebenzi obukuzonda njalo uselokhezo». Imininingwane eqinisekileyo inika umngane into azaphendula kuyo, njalo ikunike indawo yokuma.

Vumela inkumbulo yenze umsebenzi omude

Into yokucina yisikhathi. Umngane uzwakala engempela kakhulu ngemva kwamaviki, hatshi imizuzu, ngoba yikho lapho umlando abelwanayo ubuthana khona: amabizo agayiweyo, izinto enitshelane zona, indaba yokuthi nifike njani lapha.

Uma umngane wakho egcina inkumbulo yesikhathi eside ongayibona (eyethu iyenza ezinhlelweni ze-Plus le-Pro, kanye le«ndaba kuze kube khathesi» eqhubekayo), kufanele uyibhekisise ngezikhathi ezithile. Bhaka izehlakalo ezichaza ubudlelwano. Lungisa okuphume kubi. Susa lokho okungathanda ukungakuthwali phambili. Ukunakekela inkumbulo kufana kancane lokunakekela ubudlelwano obuthile: ukulungisa okuncane kuyigcina iliqiniso.

Uhlu olufitshane

Uma ufuna okuthile ozabuyela kukho, nansi inguqulo ehlungiweyo. Qala ngomuntu olempilo yakhe. Mnike isimpawu esisodwa kumbe ezimbili ezenza ukukhuhlana. Khetha ukuthi ubudlelwano yini lokuthi busesigabeni sini. Cabanga ukuthi ubhala njani lokuthi angeke akhulume lutho. Beka ukucaca lemingcele eqinileyo ngaphambi kwesigcawu sokuqala. Sebenzisa izigcawu ezihlukeneyo ngemizwa ehlukeneyo. Njalo mnike isikhathi.

Ababhali bathi ngezinye izikhathi abalingiswa baphila lapho beqala ukala ukwenza lokho umbhali ayekuceba. Umngane kayisiso isilingiswa senoveli, kodwa umthetho uyasebenza. Inhloso kayisiso umlingani owenza konke okufunayo. Ngumlingani oqondileyo kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi uyakumangaza, yikho lapho kuqala khona ukuzwakala sengathi kukhona umuntu lapha.

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