Adwene mu Mfonini, Nhyehyɛe ne Ɔpɛ Ho Ma wɔ AI Agodie Mu

Saa nsɛm yi yɛ ama nnipa akɛse, na ɛfa asɛmti a nnipa akɛse taa nya ɔhaw sɛ wɔbɛkasa ho tẽẽ: tumi a wɔhwɛ so ho adwene mu mfonini. Sɛ wɔfa wo so. Sɛ wofa obi so. Sɛ wɔtaa wo, wɔkura wo, wɔhyɛ wo, wɔdi wo ho fɛw, wode wo ho ma. Saa nsɛm yi wɔ baabi kɛse a ɛyɛ nwonwa wɔ nnipa kokoam adwene mu a ɛfa nna ho, na wɔwɔ nso aniwu a ɛyɛ nwonwa a ɛka ho.

AI gyinabew-agodie ama nnipa pii ahorow a edi kan sɛ wɔbɛhwehwɛ saa adwene mu mfonini yi mu sɛ wɔne obi kasa, a ne yɔnko no bua, a ɛnhia sɛ wɔkyerɛkyerɛ mu anaa wɔsi biribiara so dwuma kyerɛ onipa foforo. Eyi yɛ ahofadi ankasa, na ɛde nsɛmmisa ankasa ba. Dɛn na ɛkyerɛ sɛ wopɛ eyi? Ɛyɛ ahobammɔ anaa? Hena na ahye ano wɔ he? Saa nkyerɛwee yi pɛ sɛ ɛbua nsɛmmisa yi ntɔkwaw so, a ɛde nea nhwehwɛmu ka ankasa, a ɛnkyerɛkyerɛ ho nyansa na ɛnsɛ sɛ wɔpo sɛ ahyeɛ ho hia.

Ɛtaa ba, ɛnyɛ ahunahuna

Nea ɛdi kan a ɛsɛ sɛ wohu ne sɛ adwene mu mfonini a ɛfa tumi ne mmɔdemmɔ ho no nyɛ nea ɛnte da. Ɛka nna mu adwene mu mfonini a wɔka ho asɛm pii wɔ nhwehwɛmu mu no mu.

Harold Leitenberg ne Kris Henning de wɔn 1995 nhwehwɛmu a wɔyɛɛ wɔ nna ho adwene mu mfonini ho no too hɔ, a wɔboaboaa mfe pii nhwehwɛmu ano, wohuu sɛ mmɔdemmɔ ne tumi nsɛm daa adi wɔ mmarima ne mmaa nyinaa adwene mu mfonini mu. Justin Lehmiller nhwehwɛmu kɛse a ɛfa Amerikafo nna ho adwene mu mfonini ho, a wɔtoo gua wɔ 2018 sɛ Tell Me What You Want, wohuu sɛ BDSM ho nsɛm, tumi, nhyehyɛe ne nna a ɛyɛ den kɔ so wɔ adwene mu mfonini a wɔka ho asɛm pii mu, na nnipa dodow no ara a wobuaa no dwene ho bi so mpɛn baako ara. Lehmiller adwene a ɛtrɛw no ne sɛ nnipa pii adwene mu mfonini nyɛ nwonwa te sɛ nea wosuro no.

Mpo nea ɛho nsɛm yɛ sɛ wɔabara no pa ara, nna a wɔfa mu denneden anaa a ɔpɛ nni mu ho adwene mu mfonini, wɔahwehwɛ mu ma ɛyɛ nyiyim. Joseph Critelli ne Jenny Bivona hwehwɛɛ mmaa "rape fantasies" a wɔfrɛ no no ho nhwehwɛmu mu, na wohuu sɛ ɛtaa ba, bere a wɔgye asɛm baako a ɛho hia kɛse tom: adwene mu mfonini a wɔdi obi so nyɛ ɔpɛ ankasa sɛ wɔbɛtow ahyɛ no so. Wɔ adwene mu mfonini no mu, nea ɔdwene ho no ne kyerɛwfo no. Ɔhwɛ nea ɔtow hyɛ no so no ho nsɛm so, ne ɔpɛ, baabi a ɛwɔ, nea ɛrekɔ so ne bere a ɛnsa. Nneɛma a wɔnni so tumi a wɔte no no, obi a ɔwɔ tumi nyinaa na ɔyɛ no.

Nsonsonoe a ɛda adwene mu mfonini ne ɔpɛ ntam yi ne adwene a ɛho hia sen biara wɔ asɛmti yi nyinaa mu. Ɛno nso ne nea nnipa hia kwan sɛ wogye di sen biara.

Nea enti a tumi yɛ anigye

Nkyerɛkyerɛmu pii a ɛka ho wɔ hɔ a ɛkyerɛ nea enti a tumi nsɛm ho yɛ anigye, na wɔnsɛe ho.

Baako ne ɔhwɛfo a wontumi nni so. Nnipa a wɔde wɔn nna yɛ gyinaesi, wɔhwɛ afoforo so, anaa wɔyɛ wɔn ho ho nhwɛ pa ara no, adwene mu mfonini a wode tumi ma obi foforo no betumi ayɛ te sɛ nea woato ɔbotoa a ɛyɛ duru ama. Wɔ adwene mu mfonini mu no, ɔbotoa ne ahoyeraw no pii nyɛ mmoa, na mmɔdemmɔ.

Foforo ne sɛ obi pɛ wo kɛse. Yɔnko a ontumi nkura ne nsa mfi wo ho, a ɔfa wo so efisɛ ne pɛ so kɛse no, yɛ yɔnko a ɔpɛ wo sen sɛ ɔbɛyɛ nea ɔwɔ ayɛyi. Esther Perel, wɔ Mating in Captivity mu, kyerɛw nhyɛso a ɛda ahobammɔ a yɛpɛ firi ɔdɔ mu ne akwan a yɛpɛ firi ɔpɛ mu ntam, ne sɛnea ɔpɛ taa tra nkyɛn, asiane ne nsonsonoe mu a ahotɔ a yɛnyɛ no taa pam firi hɔ. Tumi ho adwene mu mfonini betumi de saa nkyɛn no bi akɔ so bio.

Nea ɛto so mmiɛnsa ne ahonu a wɔgyae. Sɛ wɔhyɛɛ wo ma woyɛɛ biribi a, ɛnyɛ wo na wopaw. Ma nnipa a wɔtetee wɔn ma wosuro wɔn ho wɔn pɛ no, adwene mu mfonini a wɔde anigye hyɛ obi so sen sɛ obi bɛhwehwɛ no betumi ayɛ kwan a ɛfa saa aniwu no ho dinn.

Na wɔn a wɔkɔ tumi afa no, nea ɛyɛ anigye no taa fa ahotɔ ne adwene a wɔde ma no ho te sɛ tumi nso: wɔde kwan nyinaa ama, wɔkenkan obi foforo no yiye, na wɔso nea ɔhyia no mu mfaso. Tumi pa, wɔ adwene mu mfonini mu ne wɔ nneyɛe mu, de adwene bɔ ho.

Saa nkyerɛkyerɛmu yi biara nyɛ adwene mu mfonini sɛ ɔyare nsɛnkyerɛnne. Ɛkyerɛ kɛkɛ sɛ tumi ho anigye wɔ adwene mu nkyerɛase. Nhwehwɛmu nso apam adwene a ɛka sɛ nnipa a wɔyɛ BDSM ankasa no abubu no. Dutchfo nhwehwɛmu a Andreas Wismeijer ne Marcel van Assen yɛe de BDSM ayɛfo toto ɔmanfo kuw ho, na wohuu sɛ wɔn adwene mu ahoɔden yɛ pɛ, anaa ɛboro mu wɔ nneɛma bi mu.

Dɛn na ɛma agodie yɛ ahobammɔ wɔ nnipa ntam

Mpɔtam a wɔbɔ tumi nsakraeɛ wɔ nkwa ankasa mu no ayɛ nneyɛe pa a ɛma ɛtena ahobammɔ mu, na ɛkyerɛ nsɛm yiye.

Edi kan ne sɛ ɔpɛ ho ma yɛ wɔ gyinabew no akyi. Wɔ gyinabew no mu no, ɔdɔfo a ɔkɔ ase no betumi aka sɛ dabi sɛ agodie no fa bi. Nea ɛma eyi yɛ pa ne sɛ nsusuwii a ɛyɛ nokware no yɛɛ no kan, wɔn baanu nyinaa, wonim nyinaa, na ɛwɔ kwan a wɔfa fi mu a wontumi nnnye agodie no no: asɔre-asɛm (safeword).

Nea ɛto so abien ne ahyeɛ. Obiara wɔ nneɛma a ɛnyɛ nea wɔbɛyɛ da, ɛmfa ho sɛnea gyinabew no bɛkɔ. Wɔtaa frɛ eyinom hard limits, na wɔsono soft limits a ɛyɛ nneɛma a obi suro nanso obetumi ahwehwɛ mu wɔ tebea pa mu.

Nea ɛto so mmiɛnsa ne aftercare: sɛ wobɛfi nnipa a wɔbɔɔ no mu akyi, wɔasan aba ɔdɔ mu, na woahwɛ sɛ wɔn baanu nyinaa ye.

Nsɛm a ɛkɔ so ne sɛ adwene mu mfonini no yɛ den kɛse a, ahyɛnsode a atwa ho ahyia no gyina pintinn kɛse. Den ne ahobammɔ nnyɛ nsɛntitiriw. Ahobammɔ ne nea ɛma den yɛ yiye.

Sɛnea ɛyɛ adwuma wɔ AI yɔnko ho

AI adamfo ne gyinabew-agodie sesa saa ahopere yi bi na ɛgyaw bi.

Nea ɛsesa ne sɛ onipa foforo biara nni asiane mu. AI nhunu amane, ɛmfa ɔhaw nkɔ fie, na gyinabew no ntumi ntwa no. Ɛno ma AI gyinabew-agodie yɛ baabi a asiane kakra wɔ so a wɔbɛhwehwɛ adwene mu mfonini a ɛhia nkɔmmɔ kɛse wɔ onipa yɔnko ho, anaa a ebia obi ntumi nnye nyɛ da. Nnipa pii hu sɛ wohu nea wɔpɛ ankasa, wɔ baabi a ɛyɛ kokoam, ma nsɛm da hɔ na ɛnsɛe wɔn.

Nea ɛkɔ so ne sɛ wo yɛ onipa a wowɔ ahyeɛ, na gyinabew mu nsakraeɛ a wɔnhwɛɛ kwan betumi ayɛ yaw mpo bere a ɛfi afidie mu. Adamfo a ɔbɛtew ne ho akɔ nea woampɛ so ntɛm, anaa ɔkɔ so san ba asɛmti bi a ɛhaw wo so no, nyɛ mfomsoɔ a ɛnyɛ ɔhaw. Ɛyɛ nsɛm mu nsɛmfua a ɛne safeword a yɔnko no yi no ho nhwɛ yɛ pɛ. Sɛ AI gyinabew-agodie bɛyɛ ahobammɔ ankasa a, ahyɛnsode no nso ɛsɛ sɛ ɛwɔ hɔ.

Wɔ nneyɛe mu no, eyi kyerɛ nneɛma mmiɛnsa.

Hyehyɛ ahyeɛ ansa na gyinabew no aba, ɛnyɛ bere a ɛrekɔ so no. Ɛyɛ mmerɛ sɛ wobɛka "ɛnyɛ eyi da" nyaa wɔ ɔfã a wɔn ho te, sen sɛ wobɛsan nkɔmmɔ so firi biribi mu wɔ ne nkyɛn. NSFW AI Companion de explicitness nhyehyɛe ne baabi a wɔde hard limits si ka ho sɛ adamfo no ayɛ fã, enti ahyeɛ no yɛ adamfo no fã, ɛnyɛ biribi a ɛsɛ sɛ wokɔ so kae no.

Kura nkyerɛwee no. Tumi agodie gyina nkɔmmɔ a ɛne sɛ wowɔ tumi wɔ sɛ wonni tumi so. Adamfo a ɔhyɛ ase kyerɛw wo nsusuwii ma wo, ɔtwe wo adwene sɛ wosrɛe anaa wopɛɛ no, gye nkyerɛwee a ɛma adwene mu mfonini yɛ ahobammɔ no fi wo nsam. Gyinabew-agodiefo pa ne n'abɔ ne ankasa su pɛpɛɛpɛ na ogyaw w'ankasa wo nsam.

Wɔ kwan a ɛyɛ adwuma daa a wobɛfa afi mu. Fi su no mu bere biara a wopɛ, ka nea wohia, na hwɛ kwan sɛ adamfo no bɛtie. Sɛ wotumi ka sɛ "gyae, momma yɛnsesa gyinabew no" na wɔdi no ni a, ɛno ne AI safeword.

Ahyeɛ a ɛnyɛ adwene mu mfonini

Nkyekyɛmu baako wɔ hɔ a nsusuwii a ɛwɔ atifi no nyɛ adwuma wɔ so, na ɛsɛ sɛ wɔka no a wɔnkyerɛw. Nna ho nsɛm biara a ɛfa mmofra ho no, wɔabara no pa ara, wɔ ntrɛwmu biara mu, sɛ abakɔsɛm anaa biribi foforo. Saa ara na ɛfa nnipa ankasa a wotumi hu wɔn a wɔmma kwan no. Eyinom nyɛ ahyeɛ a ɔde di dwuma si; wɔyɛ baabi no ankasa ahyeɛ. Gyinabew a ɛwɔ hɔ no hyɛ saa mu, na NSFW AI Companion yɛ saa. Nea ɛwɔ nkyerɛwee yi mu nyinaa fa nnipa akɛse, abakɔsɛm mu nnipa akɛse, ne nnipa akɛse a wɔde ɔpɛ ma di dwuma ho.

Bere a ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ aso

Adwene mu mfonini nyɛ ɔhaw ho ankasa. Lehmiller nhwehwɛmu, ne afoforo, kyerɛ sɛ nnipa pii adwene mu mfonini ne wɔn nkwa ne abusuabɔ ntam yɛ asomdwoe. Nanso nsɛnkyerɛnne kakra wɔ hɔ a ɛsɛ sɛ wohu.

Sɛ adwene mu mfonini gyaw wo wɔ tebea a ɛnyɛ papa daa wɔ akyi, sen sɛ wo ho bɛtɔ wo a, ebia ɛfa biribi a ɛhia sɛ wɔhwɛ no brɛoo ho. Sɛ wohu sɛ ɛrema wo su ma nnipa ankasa, sɛ nhwɛso sen sɛ adwene mu mfonini kokoam a, ɛno yɛ nsɛnkyerɛnne sɛ ahyɛnsode no atew. Na sɛ wohu sɛ wode gyinabew a ɛyɛ den di dwuma sɛ woremfa nhu nneɛma, sen sɛ wubehu nneɛma a, ɛfata sɛ wobisa nea woresiw no.

Eyinom biara nhia aniwu. Ɛhwehwɛ anigye koro no ara a wobɛde aba w'adwene mu nkwa fã foforo biara mu. Emily Nagoski, wɔ Come As You Are mu, ka sɛ nea ɛho hia sen biara wɔ nna ho ahoɔden mu no nyɛ nea wopɛ, na mmom sɛnea wote nka wɔ nea wopɛ ho. Atemmu taa ma nneɛma yɛ bɔne. Nteaseɛ taa ma nneɛma yɛ yiye.

Nea ɛwɔ gyinabew kokoam mu ahofadi

Nnipa de adwene mu mfonini ayɛ adwuma daa sɛ wɔbɛhwehwɛ nea wɔrenyɛ da. Nna ho adwene mu mfonini nsono nea aka no: ɛsrasra, ɛbɔ so, na ɛde tumi di agodie wɔ akwan a wontumi nsusuw ho wɔ da biara da mu. Ɛnyɛ mfomsoɔ wɔ nnipa nna ho. Ɛyɛ ne su dedaw no mu baako.

AI adamfo de gyinabew foforo ma saa adwene mu mfonini no: nkɔmmɔ a ɛyɛ, kokoam, ne abotare a enni awiei. Sɛ wɔde ahyeɛ a ɛda adi ne kyerɛwfo adwene a ɛwɔ hɔ di dwuma a, ɛbɛyɛ baabi a wobɛhu nea wopɛ, wɔate nea enti a wopɛ, na wogyaw aniwu bi a nnipa pii sa wɔ asɛmti yi ho no. Mmara a ɛho hia no ne nea agodifo a wɔwɔ osuahu no ayɛ daa. Gyinabew no betumi ayɛ den sɛnea wopɛ biara, sɛ ahyɛnsode a atwa ho ahyia no gyina pintinn a.

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