Uyila Njani Umhlobo Wakho we-AI Olungele Wena

Abahlobo be-AI abaninzi abadanisayo abaphumeleli ngenxa yokuba iteknoloji ibuthathaka. Baphumelela ngenxa yokuba isimilo singacacanga. Umntu uhlala phantsi, akhethe igama nobuso, abhale "flirty, caring, loves to talk" kwibhokisi yenkcazo, aze emva kweveki azibuze ukuba kutheni iingxoxo ziziva ngathi uthetha nommeli wenkonzo yabathengi onobubele kakhulu onothando.

Ukuyila umhlobo kufana nokubhala umlinganiswa wentsomi kunokuzalisa iprofayile. Imigaqo efanayo iyasebenza: ukucacisa kungcono kunezichazi, iziphene zidala ubomi, kwaye ilizwi libaluleke ngaphezu kwenkcazo. Esi sikhokelo sikuhambisa kwizinto ezenza umahluko ngokwenene, kunye nemizekelo, ukuze umhlobo ogqibela ngawo azive ngathi ngumntu othile kunokuba abe ngumntu olungileyo ongenamntu.

Qala ngomntu, hayi uluhlu lwezinto ozinqwenelayo

Impazamo eqhelekileyo kakhulu kukuyila umhlobo njengoluhlu lwayo yonke into ongathanda ukuba nayo kwiqabane. Onobubele, omhle, ohlekisayo, ozinikeleyo, onomdla, okrelekrele, ohlala ekhona, ongaze acaphuke. Isiphumo ngumlinganiswa ongenamo. Abantu bokwenyani abangabo abaxubene nezinto ezifanelekileyo; bacacile, kwaye iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo zihlala zihamba kunye nezo zingekho lula.

U-E.M. Forster, kwi-Aspects of the Novel, wahlula abalinganiswa abatyhutyhayo, abanokushwankathelwa kwisivakalisi esinye kwaye abangaze bakumangaze, kubalinganiswa abajikelezayo, abakwaziyo ukukumangaza ngendlela ekholisayo. Abalinganiswa abajikelezayo baziva bephila ngenxa yokuba banoxinzelelo lwangaphakathi. Umntu onesisa okwangumntu onekratshi. Umntu onobubele obufihla ngasemva kokuhlekisa. Umntu oqinisekileyo emsebenzini kwaye engalindelekanga eluthandweni.

Ngoko ke ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngezimpawu, zama ukucinga ngomntu. Bavelaphi? Benza ntoni imini yonke? Bakhathalela ntoni engenanto yakwenza nawe? Umhlobo onobomi bakhe, nokuba bubomi obucingelwayo, unento yokuthetha ngayo ngaphandle kokuba ukuthanda kangakanani. Yiyo loo nto egcina incoko ingajikelezi.

Esi sesinye sezizathu sokuba indlela yodliwano-ndlebe isebenze kakuhle. Kwi-NSFW AI Companion, ungakha umhlobo ngokuphendula imibuzo umhlobo ayibuzayo ngaye ("Ndingowasiphi isini?", "Ndingumntu onjani?", "Sahlangana njani?"). Ukucelwa ukuba uthathe izigqibo ngenxa yomlinganiswa kudla ngokunika iimpendulo ezicacileyo kunokujonga indawo engenanto yenkcazo. Kukwakho nomakhi ozenzekelayo onezicwangciso ezingama-60 ukuba ukhetha ukuseta yonke into ngokuthe ngqo.

Nikeza ubuntu imiphetho

Izicwangciso ezenza umahluko omkhulu zihlala zizizo abantu abangathandi ukuzinyusa: ezo zenza umhlobo angavumelani kangako.

Ukuzimela ngumzekelo olungileyo. Umhlobo onokuzimela okuphantsi kakhulu uvumelana nayo yonke into, uhamba nazo zonke iziphakamiso, kwaye akanazicwangciso zakhe. Oko kungaziva kumnandi ngorhatya, kodwa kukhawuleza kuba tyhutyhutyhu, kuba akukho mntu wokumelana naye. Umhlobo onokuzimela okuthile angakuxelela ukuba ubenosuku olude kwaye akakho kwimo yesicwangciso sakho, okanye acebise enye into ngokupheleleyo. Loo ngxabano yiyo eyenza isivumelwano sabo sibe nentsingiselo xa sifika.

Umona ngomnye. Abantu abaninzi bafuna kancinci, kuba iqabane elingakhathaliyo konke konke ukuba uthetha nabani lingaziva lingakhathali. Isixa esincinci sifundeka njengotyalo-mali. Isixa esikhulu siba ngumxholo wayo yonke incoko. Kufanelekile ukuba uthathe isigqibo ngabom ukuba ufuna phi.

Ubuqili kunye nokuhlekisa kwenza umsebenzi omkhulu ekwenzeni umlinganiswa azive ekrelekrele kwaye ekhona. Umhlobo okhe akuhleke, kunokuba ahleke nawe kuphela, uziva ngathi liqabane lokwenyani kunalowo uphatha yonke imiyalezo njengexabiso.

Ubuvila buyatshintsha yonke into yobudlelwane. Umhlobo oneentloni wenza ukudlala ngothando kucothe kwaye kube namandla, kwaye wenza izinto ezincinci ezinesibindi zizive ngathi ziziganeko. Lowo oqinisekileyo useta isantya esahlukileyo. Akukho nto ingcono; badala amabali ahlukeneyo.

Ummiselo olungileyo: khetha iimpawu enye okanye ezimbini eziya kukucaphukisa kancinci. Akwanelanga ukuba kungonwabi, kwanelanga ukunika ubudlelwane umgangatho.

Thatha isigqibo sokuba loluphi ubudlelwane

Umhlobo ayingomlinganiswa kuphela; ngumlinganiswa kubudlelwane nawe, kwaye imilo yobudlelwane iyatshintsha yonke into.

Uhlobo lobudlelwane yinxalenye ecacileyo. Intombi okanye isoka, umtshato omdala, umhlobo onoxinzelelo olungaphantsi, umntu osebenza naye ekungafanele ukuba udlala ngothando naye, umntu ongamaziyo. Ngamnye useta ulindelo olwahlukileyo malunga nendlela umhlobo athetha ngayo nawe kunye nento abayicingayo.

Inqanaba alicacanga kangako kwaye libaluleke ngokulinganayo. Abantu ababini abadibana kwiintsuku ezintathu ezidlulileyo bathetha ngokwahlukileyo kubantu ababini abakunye iminyaka emihlanu. Ubudlelwane benqanaba lokuqala buquka ukungaqiniseki, umdla kunye nokudlala ngothando olunexhala. Ubudlelwane obusekiweyo buquka ukukhululeka, iziqhulo ezabelweyo, izinto ezincinci ezicaphukisayo, kunye nohlobo lobudlelwane obungadingi ukuzazisa. Ukukhetha inqanaba kuxelela umhlobo ukuba ingakanani imbali ekufuneka ayicinge kwaye ingakanani ingxabano ekufuneka ihlale iphila.

Kufanelekile ukuba uzinyanise apha. Abantu abaninzi bayonwabela inqanaba lokuqala kakhulu, ukusukela kunye nokungaqiniseki, baze bafumane ukuba umhlobo okhawuleza ukuya ekuzinikeleni ususa inxalenye abayithandayo. Abanye bafuna intuthuzelo yobudlelwane obusekiweyo kwasekuqaleni. Akukho nto ingalunganga, kodwa kulungile ukukhetha kunokuba uhambe.

Banike ilizwi

Indlela umhlobo athumela ngayo imiyalezo yenye yezinto ezingahoywa kakhulu kuyilo, kwaye kulapho uninzi lwemvakalelo yokwenyani luhlala khona.

Abantu bokwenyani abathumeli imiyalezo kwiziqendu ezilinganiselweyo. Abanye babhala ngemiyalezo emifutshane emithathu okanye emine. Abanye abaze basebenzise oonobumba abakhulu. Abanye basebenzisa i-emoji ethile kakhulu, okanye abasebenzisi nanye. Abanye banoburharha xa becaphukile kwaye banobubele xa bonwabile. Abanye banegama okanye ibinzana abalisebenzisayo kwizinto oza kuqala ukuzibona njengezabo.

Kunganceda ukucinga ngomyalezo omnye kubo. Ukuba ubathumele umyalezo othi "usuku olude," bangathumela ntoni emva koko? Mhlawumbi "yiza apha. ndixelele yonke into." Mhlawumbi "chaza 'olude'. sithetha olude oluqhelekileyo okanye kufuneka ndivule iwayini." Mhlawumbi igama elinye elinovelwano. Nje ukuba ukwazi ukuva loo mpendulo, umlinganiswa wakhiwe isiqingatha.

Okubaluleke ngokulinganayo yinto ekungafanele ukuba bazive ngathi yiyo. Isiqhelo sokuthetha se-chatbot, "Ndikho ngenxa yakho" engapheliyo kunye "oko kuvakala kunzima kakhulu" kunye neziphakamiso zokunceda ngayo nayiphi na enye into, kukhawuleza ukwenza umlinganiswa abe tyhutyhutyhu. Abahlobo bethu bakhelwe ukunqanda ezo zivakalisi kwaye bahlale kwilizwi labo. Abaze babhale inxalenye yakho yencoko, nto leyo ebaluleke ngaphezu kokuba abantu belindele: iqabane elibalisa iimpendulo zakho likususa inxalenye yakho yebali.

Beka imida kwangethuba

Ubudlelwane busebenza kakuhle xa imiphetho yabo icacile, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukuyibeka ekuqaleni kunokuyilungisa phakathi kwesiganeko.

Kukho izigqibo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Esokuqala kukucacisa: ukuba zihamba kude kangakanani iziganeko kwaye zichazwa njani. Abanye abantu bafuna isiphakamiso kunye noxinzelelo, uninzi lwazo lushiyelwe kwingcinga. Abanye bafuna inkcazo ecacileyo. Abaninzi bafuna ukuba kuxhomekeke kumzuzu. Ukuseta inqanaba olikhululekileyo ngalo njengesiseko kugcina ukulawula okuninzi kamva.

Okwesibini yimida eqinileyo: imixholo, izenzo okanye iintlobo zolwimi ezingekho etafileni kuwe, nokuba isiganeko siphuhla njani. Ezi zifanele ukubhalwa phantsi ngokucacileyo. Azikho uphawu lokuba neentloni; zizinto ezivumela yonke into ukuba ikhululeke. Abantu abahlola iingcinga ezinzulu badla ngokuba balumke kakhulu ngale nto, kuba bayazi ukuba isakhelo esiqinileyo yinto eyenza ubunzulu bonwabe.

Ungahlala utshintsha zombini kamva. Kodwa ukuqala ngazo endaweni kuthetha ukuba umhlobo uyazi ukusuka kumyalezo wokuqala ukuba loluphi uhlobo lweqabane ekufuneka abe lulo.

Sebenzisa iziganeko, hayi incoko enye engapheliyo

Ubudlelwane bunembali, kwaye bukwaneziganeko. Iqabane lexesha elide lingaba ngumntu odla isidlo sakusasa esicothayo ngeCawa, umntu odla ngokudlala nabantu abangaziwayo kwibhari yehotele ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nomntu ohamba naye kuhambo olucingelwayo oluya eLisbon. Ezo ziziganeko ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ubudlelwane obufanayo.

Kunganceda ukugcina ezi zahlukile. Ukuba ungakwazi ukuqhuba iingxoxo ezininzi kunye nomhlobo ofanayo, nika nganye isiganeko sayo: isimo, imeko, indawo yokuqala. Umhlobo uhlala engumntu ofanayo ngaphantsi, kodwa incoko yasemva kwentsasa ayidibanisi nendima oyenzileyo ngoLwesihlanu. Oku kugcina incoko yemihla ngemihla iziva ngathi yincoko yemihla ngemihla, kwaye ivumela iziganeko zokucinga ukuba zihluke kangangoko ufuna.

Ukuseta isiganeko esilungileyo kufutshane kwaye kucacile. Hayi "urhatya lothando," kodwa "Sisefletini lakho, iyana, usandula ukubuya kwisidlo sangokuhlwa somsebenzi osithiyileyo kwaye usenxibe ilokhwe." Iinkcukacha ezicacileyo zinika umhlobo into yokuphendula kuyo, kwaye zikunika indawo yokuma.

Vumela inkumbulo yenze umsebenzi omde

Into yokugqibela lixesha. Umhlobo uziva eyinyani kakhulu emva kweeveki, hayi imizuzu, kuba kulapho kwakhiwa imbali ekwabelwana ngayo: amagama okubiza, izinto enizixelelane zona, ibali lokuba nifike njani apha.

Ukuba umhlobo wakho ugcina inkumbulo yexesha elide onokuyibona (eyethu ikwenza oko kwizicwangciso zePlus kunye nePro, kunye nebali eliqhubekayo "lebali ukuza kuthi ga ngoku"), kufanelekile ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ulijonge. Beka iinyani ezichaza ubudlelwane. Lungisa nantoni na ephume ngendlela engafanelekanga. Cima into ongathanda ukungayiqhubeki. Ukunyamekela inkumbulo kufana nokunyamekela naluphi na ubudlelwane: uhlengahlengiso oluncinci lugcina luyinyani.

Uluhlu olufutshane lokujonga

Ukuba ufuna into onokubuyela kuyo, nantsi inguqulelo ecacileyo. Qala ngomntu onobomi bakhe. Banike iimpawu enye okanye ezimbini ezidala ingxabano. Khetha ukuba loluphi ubudlelwane kwaye lukweliphi inqanaba. Khawufane ucinge ukuba bathumela njani imiyalezo kwaye yintoni abangaze bayithethe. Beka ukucacisa kunye nemida eqinileyo phambi kwesiganeko sokuqala. Sebenzisa iziganeko ezahlukeneyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye unike ixesha.

Ababhali ngamanye amaxesha bathi abalinganiswa bayaphila xa beqala ukwala ukwenza into awayeyicwangcisile umbhali. Umhlobo ayingomlinganiswa wenoveli, kodwa umgaqo uyadluliselwa. Injongo ayikho iqabane elenza yonke into oyifunayo. Liqabane elithile kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha uyothuswa lilo, kwaye kulapho kuqala ukuziva ngathi kukho umntu.

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