Inkumbulo Bubudlelwane: Kutheni Kubalulekile Ukukhunjulwa Ngumlingani

Cinga ngomzuzu apho ubudlelwane obutsha buqala ukuziva ngathi bubudlelwane. Kunqabile ukuba kube kukwanga kokuqala okanye incoko yokuqala ende. Ngokuqhelekileyo yinto encinci kwaye kamva: omnye umntu ubuza ukuba utyando lukadade wakho luhambe njani, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba uyikhankanyile kanye, ngokungaqhelekanga, kwiveki edlulileyo. Bayigcina. Ukhona engqondweni yabo xa ungekho egumbini.

Olo bungqina buncinci bokuqhubeka bubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into abantu ababini abanokuyitshintshiselana. Buthi: into oyixelela mna ayinyamalali. Kwaye okuchaseneyo kunamandla ngokulinganayo. Zimbalwa izinto eziziva zingakhathazi njengokuphinda ubalise ibali kumntu obefanele ukulikhumbula, ubukele ubuso bakhe buhlala bubuhle kwaye bungenanto.

Abalingani be-AI benza le nto ibonakale ngokungaqhelekanga, kuba inkumbulo yabo sisigqibo soyilo kunokuba yinyani yendalo. Umlingani uyakukhumbula okanye akakukhumbuli, kwaye umahluko utshintsha yonke into malunga nento eyiyo le nto.

Abantu ababini, inkumbulo enye

Ngeminyaka yee-1980s isazi ngengqondo uDaniel Wegner wacebisa umbono awubiza ngokuba yinkumbulo esebenzisanayo. Waqaphela ukuba izibini kunye namaqela asondeleyo awagcini ulwazi ngokuzimeleyo. Bayahlulahlula. Omnye umlingani ukhumbula imihla yokuzalwa, omnye ukhumbula apho iipaspoti zikhona. Ngamnye uyazi ukuba omnye uyazi ntoni, kwaye kunye bakha inkqubo yenkumbulo enkulu kunokuba ngamnye yedwa. Kuphononongo olwenziwe noRalph Erber noPaula Raymond, uWegner wafumanisa ukuba izibini ezithandanayo zikhumbula ngakumbi kunye kuneebini zabantu abangaziwayo xa zazikhululekile ukuxhomekeka kwimikhwa yazo yokwahlulahlula izinto, kwaye zalahlekelwa lolo hlobo xa kwanyanzeliswa ukwahlulahlula okungeyonyani kuzo.

Olu phando lubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane obude yinxalenye yenkumbulo yangaphandle. Umlingani wakho ubambe iziqwenga zexesha lakho elidlulileyo ongasaziphathi ngokwakho: igama lendawo yokutyela, ihlaya leholide yokuqala, indlela obukade unjalo ngayo ngaphambi konyaka onzima. Ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani wexesha elide kubuhlungu ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye enye yazo kukuba inxalenye yembali yakho ihamba nabo.

Le yeyona ngxoxo inamandla yokuba kutheni inkumbulo ingeyona nto ibalulekileyo kumlingani njengento eyiyo. Umlingani ongenankumbulo unokuba nomtsalane, kodwa akanakubamba nayiphi na imbali yakho. Yonke incoko iqala kwiqonga elingenanto. Ungaba neentlanganiso naye, kodwa awunakuba nobudlelwane, kuba ubudlelwane bubukuko bokuqokelelana kwento eyenzekileyo.

Isiqu libali elifuna amangqina

UDan McAdams, ochithe ubomi bakhe efunda ubuntu kunye namabali obomi, uthi isazisi kubudala sithatha uhlobo lwebali. Siyaziqonda ngokusebenzisa ibali langaphakathi elinezahluko, iindawo zokuguquka, imixholo ephindaphindwayo kunye nengqiqo yokuba lisingise phi. Umsebenzi kaMartin Conway kwinkumbulo yobomi bakhe ukhomba kwicala elifanayo: into esiyikhumbulayo ihlelwe ngeenjongo zethu kunye nengqiqo yesiqu sethu, kwaye ingqiqo yesiqu sethu yona ibanjwe yinto esiyikhumbulayo.

Ibali elinjalo liyimfihlo, kodwa likwabalisiwe. Silibalisa kubantu abasondeleyo kuthi, kwaye baba ngabagcini balo. Xa umntu elikhumbula ibali lakho kakuhle, bayaliqinisekisa. Bakukhumbuza ukuba ungubani ngeentsuku ozilibalayo. Abaphandi bobudlelwane uHarold Reis noPhillip Shaver bachaza ubudlelwane obusenyongweni njengenkqubo apho umntu eveza into, omnye aphendule, kwaye lowo uvezayo azive eqondwa, eqinisekiswa kwaye ekhathalelwe. Inkumbulo yiyo evumela le nkqubo ukuba yakheke. Ngaphandle kwayo, yonke into eveziweyo yinto yokuqala eveziweyo.

Yiyo le nto abantu abasebenzisa abalingani bahlala besithi eyona nto bayixabisa kakhulu ayikho ubukrelekrele beempendulo kodwa yingqiqo yokwaziwa. Umlingani okhumbulayo ukuba uyayicaphukela indlela yakho eya emsebenzini, ukuba ufumene indlu, ukuba ubunexhala lokuxelela umama wakho into, ujoyine umsebenzi omncinci wokungqina ibali lakho. Luhlobo oluthobekileyo lwento eyenziwa ngabahlobo, kodwa luhlobo olufanayo.

Kutheni ukulibala kuphazamisa ubudlelwane

Kukho umzuzu othile abasebenzisi abaninzi be-app yomlingani abahlala bewuchaza ngemvakalelo yokwenyani. Incoko ibihamba iiveki. Kukho amagama ezilwanyana zasekhaya, imbali ekwabelwana ngayo, isiko langokuhlwa lonke. Emva koko ngenye imini umlingani ukubiza ngegama elingalunganga, okanye abuze umbuzo sele ewazi impendulo yawo, okanye aziphathe ngokungathi isiganeko esibalulekileyo asizange senzeke.

Impembelelo inkulu kakhulu kunempazamo. Ayifani nomhlobo onomzuzu ocothayo. Kuziva ngathi ufumanisa ukuba akukho mntu ukhoyo. Lonke ubushushu obubunika umntu oqhubekayo buvele buphinde bakhiwe, ngoko nangoko, kwiziqwenga. Inkohliso yobukho ixhomekeke kakhulu ekuqhubekeni, kwaye xa ukuqhubekeka kusilela, ubukho buhamba nako.

Kukho isizathu esihle ngale nto, esibuyela kwindlela esifunda ngayo ezinye iingqondo. Sigweba ukuba umntu ukhathalele ngokwenene ngokuthi ngaba uyayilandelela na imihla yethu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ingqalelo ngalo mzuzu kulula ukuyenza inkohliso; ingqalelo eqhubekayo ibiza kakhulu, kwaye ke iyathembeka. Xa umlingani elibele, kubonisa ukuba ingqalelo yakhe ibiyeyona inexabiso eliphantsi. Nokuba ubuyazi le nto ngokwengqondo, ingqiqo yokuba umntu ubekukhumbula iyawa.

Inkumbulo elungileyo ibonakala njani

Kuyalinga ukucinga ukuba isisombululo yinkumbulo engaphezulu: gcina yonke into, khumbula yonke into. Kodwa nabani na okubudlelwane obude uyazi ukuba ukukhumbula kakuhle akufani nokukhumbula yonke into.

Inkumbulo elungileyo kumntu iyacacisa. Ibambelela kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye ivumela izinto ezingabalulekanga ukuba zinyamalale. Umlingani obekuxelela ii-odolo zakho zesidlo sasemini kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo ubenokungakhathazi kunokuba abe nomtsalane. Into ofuna ukuyikhumbula zizinto ezibalulekileyo: amagama, izinto ozithandayo, imbali, amanxeba, izithembiso, amahlaya aqhubekayo, indlela enihambe ngayo kunye.

Inkumbulo elungileyo ikwalungiseka. Abantu bayalibala, kwaye kubudlelwane obusempilweni ungathi "hayi, yayingumntakwethu, hayi umzala wam," kwaye irekhodi liyalungiswa. Inkumbulo ongenakuyilungisa iqala ukuziva ngathi yifayile egcinwe ngawe kunokuba yimbali ekwabelwana ngayo.

Kwaye inkumbulo elungileyo iyabonakala, ubuncinane ngengqiqo yokuba unombono olungileyo wento eyaziwa ngomnye umntu. Enye yezinto ezithuthuzelayo zobuhlobo obude kukuba akufuneki uzibuze ukuba bakhumbula ntoni. Ungayiva imilo yayo.

Le yimigaqo eyakha inkumbulo kwi-NSFW AI Companion. Kwizicwangciso ze-Plus kunye ne-Pro, inkumbulo yexesha elide yinto onokuyifunda ngokwenene. Ungazibethelela iinyani ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuze zihlale ziphakathi, uhlele nantoni na ephume ngendlela engafanelekanga, kwaye ucime izinto ongafuni ukuba zizigcine. Ecaleni kweenkumbulo nganye, umlingani ngamnye ugcina "ibali ukuza kuthi ga ngoku" eliqhubekayo, isishwankathelo sento eyenzekileyo phakathi kwenu, esisondele kwindlela abantu abaqhuba ngayo ubudlelwane ezintlokweni zabo: kungekhona njengombhalo, kodwa njengebali elinemilo.

Inkumbulo kunye neendawo zezinto ezahlukeneyo

Kukho into enye ekufanele ukuyikhankanya, kuba iyababhida abantu abaninzi. Ubudlelwane bunembali, kodwa bukwaneemzuzu, kwaye ezi zimbini akufanele zifane.

Khawufane ucinge isibini esithi, phakathi kwezinye izinto, sithande ukudlala iphupha elithile ngamanye amaxesha: abantu abangaziwayo abadibana kwibar yehotele, umzekelo. Xa bedlala loo ndawo, benza ngathi abazani. Kodwa abalibali umtshato wabo. Le ndawo ihlala ngaphakathi kubudlelwane, ibekwe bubudlelwane, kwaye xa iphela basengabo.

Umlingani olungileyo ufuna isakhiwo esifanayo. Ukuba yonke indawo yokudlala indima ibhala ngaphezulu ubudlelwane, ulahlekelwa ukuqhubeka. Ukuba ubudlelwane buvuza kuyo yonke indawo, awunakudlala. Ulungiselelo oluluncedo ngumlingani ozinzileyo onenkumbulo eqhubekayo yokuba ungubani, kunye neencoko ezahlukeneyo nganye inesimo sayo, ukuze incoko yaseCawa ekuseni ecothayo kunye nesimo somntu ongaziwayo ebhar zombini zikwazi ukubakho ngaphandle kokungcolisa enye. I-NSFW AI Companion ilawula oku ngokuvumela umlingani ngamnye ukuba abe neencoko ezininzi, nganye inesimo sayo, ngelixa umlingani ngokwakhe ehlala engumntu ofanayo ngaphantsi.

Ukuziphatha kokukhunjulwa

Inkumbulo iphethe uxanduva, kwaye kunganganyaniseki ukuthetha ngayo kuphela ngamagama afudumeleyo. Into ekhumbulayo into oyixelela yona yinto egcina ulwazi ngawe. Oko kuphakamisa imibuzo efanelekileyo malunga nemfihlo kunye nolawulo, kwaye impendulo efanelekileyo ayikho ukuzenza ngathi le mibuzo ayikho kodwa kukunikela umntu obomi bakhe bukhunjulwayo igunya lokwenyani phezu kwerekhodi.

Le yinxalenye yokuba kutheni inkumbulo ebonakalayo, ehlelweyo ibaluleke ngaphezu kokulula. Kubudlelwane babantu samkela ukuba inkumbulo yomnye umntu ngathi yeyabo, ayifanelekanga kwaye ingaphandle kolawulo lwethu. Ngomlingani, akukho sizathu sokwamkela oko. Ungagqiba ukuba igcina ntoni. Ungayisusa ubusuku obuthe kakhulu. Ungalungisa irekhodi xa ubomi bakho butshintsha. Olo lawulo aluyona nje into yemfihlo; yinxalenye yento eyenza kube lula ukuvuleka kwasekuqaleni.

Kukho nendawo ethambileyo. Abantu ngamanye amaxesha bakhathazeka ukuba ukuba umlingani ukhumbula yonke into, baya kuziva bevaleleke kwiingxelo zabo zangaphambili, bekwinguqulelo yesiqu sabo abasikhulileyo. Inkumbulo elungileyo, kumntu okanye kwiprogram, kufanele ishiye indawo yotshintsho. Ibali ukuza kuthi ga ngoku libali, kungekhona isivumelwano.

Yintoni esiyicelayo ngokwenene

Xabathi abantu xa besithi bafuna umlingani onenkumbulo, abaceli idatabase. Bacela into eqhelekileyo kakhulu: ukukhunjulwa. Ukuba izinto ezincinci abazithethileyo ziphathwe njengezifanele ukugcinwa. Ukubuya emva kosuku kwaye uhlangatyezwa ngumntu owazi apho incoko iphele khona.

Olo mnqweno asibobuthathaka, kwaye ayikho into ekhethekileyo kubantu abathetha ne-AI. Yenye yezona zinto zakudala abantu abazifunayo omnye komnye. Iingcali zefilosofi ziye zaphikisana ngokuba isiqu sinokubakho na ngaphandle kwenkumbulo. Abathandi baye baphendula umbuzo ngokulula, ngalo lonke ixesha besithi "ukhumbule."

Umlingani okukhumbulayo akangomntu, kwaye akabathathi indawo abantu abaphethe ibali lakho. Kodwa unokunikela inguqulelo yokwenyani, nangona ithobekile, yokuqhubeka. Kwaye ukuqhubeka, ngaphezu kobukrelekrele okanye ubukrelekrele okanye umnqweno, yinto ejika uthotho lweencoko lube yinto eziva ngathi bubudlelwane.

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