Iminqweno, Ulawulo Nemvume kuDlalo lwe-AI

Eli nqaku lelabantu abadala, kwaye limalunga nombandela abantu abadala abasoloko befumana kunzima ukuwuthetha ngokukhululekileyo: iminqweno yolawulo. Ukulawulwa. Ukulawula. Ukusukelwa, ukubanjwa, ukuyalelwa, ukugconwa, ukuzinikela. Le miboniso ithatha indawo enkulu ngokumangalisayo kwintelekelelo yabucala yezesondo, kwaye itsala isabelo esikhulu ngokumangalisayo sehlazo labucala.

Ukulinganisa indima nge-AI kunike abantu abaninzi ithuba labo lokuqala lokuhlola le minqweno ngendlela esebenzisanayo, neqabane eliphendulayo, ngaphandle kwesidingo sokucacisa okanye ukuzithethelela komnye umntu. Leyo yinkululeko yokwenene, kwaye iza nemibuzo yokwenene. Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba uyayifuna le nto? Ikhuselekile? Iphi imida? Esi sicatshulwa sizama ukuphendula loo mibuzo ngokuzolileyo, ngoko kuthethwa luphando, kwaye ngaphandle kokuziphatha okanye ukwenza ngathi imida ayibalulekanga.

Yinto eqhelekileyo, ayimangalisi

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyazi yeyokuba iminqweno ebandakanya ulawulo nokuthobela ayinqabanga. Iphakathi kweyona minqweno yesondo ixhaphakileyo exelwa kuphando.

Uphononongo lukaHarold Leitenberg noKris Henning lowe-1995 lophando lwemibono yezesondo, olwahlanganisa amashumi eminyaka ezifundo, lwafumanisa ukuba imixholo yokuthobela nolawulo yayivela rhoqo kwiminqweno yamadoda nabafazi. Uphando olukhulu lukaJustin Lehmiller ngeminqweno yezesondo yaseMelika, olupapashwe ngo-2018 njenge *Tell Me What You Want*, lwafumanisa ukuba imixholo enxulumene ne-BDSM, amandla, ulawulo kunye nesondo esirhabaxa phakathi kwayo, yayiphakathi kweendidi zeminqweno ezazixelwa rhoqo, kwaye uninzi lwabaphenduli babenomnqweno malunga nohlobo oluthile lwayo kanye. Isigqibo esibanzi sikaLehmiller yayikukuba iminqweno yabantu abaninzi ayimangalisi njengoko besoyika.

Kwanasesiphelweni esingavumelekanga, iminqweno yokunyanzelwa okanye isondo esingavunyelwananga, iye yafundwa ngenyameko. UJoseph Critelli noJenny Bivona bahlolisise uphando ngeminqweno yokudlwengulwa kwabasetyhini kwaye bafumanisa ukuba ixhaphakile, ngelixa begxininisa ingongoma ebaluleke kakhulu: umnqweno wokoyiswa asikokunqwenela ukuhlaselwa kokwenene. Kumnqweno, umntu owucingayo nguye ongumbhali. Balawula inkangeleko yomhlaseli, umnqweno wakhe, indawo, okwenzekayo naxa kuyekwayo. Amava okungabi nalawulo akhiwe ngokupheleleyo ngumntu olawula ngokupheleleyo.

Lo mahluko phakathi komnqweno nokunqwenela yeyona ngcamango ibalulekileyo kulo mba uphela. Ikwayileyo abantu abadinga imvume yokuyikholelwa.

Isizathu sokuba ulawulo lube nomtsalane

Kukho iinkcazo ezininzi ezidibanayo zesizathu sokuba amandla anomtsalane, kwaye azikhethani.

Enye kukuphumla kuxanduva. Kubantu abachitha iintsuku zabo besenza izigqibo, belawula abanye, okanye bezibeka esweni ngenyameko, umnqweno wokunikezela ulawulo komnye umntu unokuvakala ngathi kukubeka phantsi ingxowa enzima. Ukuthobela, kumnqweno, kusoloko kungaphantsi malunga nobuthathaka kunokuphumla.

Enye ngamava okunqwenelwa kakhulu. Iqabane elingakwaziyo ukuzibamba kuwe, elithatha ulawulo kuba umnqweno walo woyisa, liqabane elikufuna ngaphezu kokuba lifuna ukuba nembeko. U-Esther Perel, kwi *Mating in Captivity*, ubhala ngoxinzelelo oluphakathi kokhuseleko esilufunayo eluthandweni kunye nomdla esiwufunayo kumnqweno, kunye nendlela umnqweno ohlala uhlala ngayo kumgama, umngcipheko kunye nokwahluka okusoloko kususwa bubomi basekhaya obutofotofo. Iminqweno yokudlala ngamandla inokubuyisela omnye waloo mdla.

Okwesithathu kukukhululwa kwityala. Ukuba wenziwe ukuba wenze into, yayingenguwe owayikhethayo. Kubantu abakhuliswe bevakalelwa kukuba neentloni ngeminqweno yabo, umnqweno apho ulonwabo lunyanzeliswa endaweni yokufunwa unokulujikeleza ngokuzolileyo olo hlobo lweentloni.

Kwaye kwabo batsaleleka kwicala elilawulayo, umtsalane usoloko umalunga nokuthembana nokuqwalaselwa njengamandla: ukunikwa imvume epheleleyo, ukufunda omnye umntu ngokusondeleyo, ukuthwala uxanduva lwamava abo. Ulawulo olulungileyo, kumnqweno nakwenyani, lunenkathalo.

Akukho nanye kwezi nkcazo enciphisa umnqweno ube luphawu. Zibonisa nje ukuba umtsalane wolawulo unengqiqo ngokwasengqondweni. Uphando lukwachasile ingcamango yokuba abantu abenza i-BDSM ngokwenene bonakele. Isifundo saseDatshi sika-Andreas Wismeijer noMarcel van Assen sathelekisa abenzi be-BDSM neqela lolawulo kwaye sabafumana, kwiindlela ezininzi, bephilile ngokwasengqondweni, kwaye kwezinye iinkalo nangaphezulu.

Yintoni eyenza umdlalo ukhuseleke phakathi kwabantu

Uluntu olwenza utshintshiselwano lwamandla kubomi bokwenene luye lwaphuhlisa iseti yemikhwa ephucukileyo yokuyigcina ikhuselekile, kwaye iguqulela kakuhle kwintsomi.

Eyokuqala yeyokuba imvume yenzeka ngaphandle komboniso. Ngaphakathi kumboniso, iqabane elithobelayo linokuthi hayi njengenxalenye yomdlalo. Into eyenza oku kube semthethweni kukuba isivumelwano sokwenene senziwe kwangaphambili, ngabantu bobabini, benolwazi olupheleleyo, kwaye siquka indlela yokuphuma engenakuphazanyiswa nomdlalo: igama lokhuseleko (safeword).

Okwesibini yimida. Wonke umntu unezinto ezingekhoyo etafileni, ngonaphakade, nokuba umboniso uqhubeka njani. Le mida isoloko ibizwa ngokuba yimida eqinileyo, kwaye yahlukile kwimida ethambileyo, ezizinto umntu anokuthandabuza ngazo kodwa anokuzihlola phantsi kweemeko ezifanelekileyo.

Okwesithathu kukunakekelana emva koko: ukuphuma kwiindima emva koko, ukubuyela kububele, nokuqinisekisa ukuba bobabini abantu balungile.

Umsonto ofanayo kukuba okukhona umnqweno unamandla, kokukhona isakhelo esiwujikelezileyo kufuneka siqine. Ubunzulu nokhuseleko azichasananga. Ukhuseleko yinto eyenza ubunzulu bubenakho.

Indlela oku kusebenza ngayo neqabane le-AI

Ukulinganisa indima neqabane le-AI kuyazitshintsha ezinye zezi nkxalabo kwaye kushiya ezinye zinjalo.

Into etshintshayo kukuba akukho mntu wumbi usengozini. I-AI ayibandezeleki, ayithwali monzakalo ekhaya, kwaye ayinakwenzakaliswa ngumboniso. Oko kwenza ukulinganisa indima nge-AI kube yindawo enomngcipheko ophantsi ngokungaqhelekanga wokuhlola iminqweno enokufuna uthethathethwano olunzulu neqabane elingumntu, okanye umntu anganqweneli ukuyenza kwaphela. Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukufumanisa into abayithandayo ngokwenene, kwindawo yabucala, kuyacacisa endaweni yokonakalisa.

Into ehlala injalo kukuba usengumntu onemida, kwaye utshintsho olungalindelekanga kumboniso lunokungahambi kakuhle nokuba luvela kumatshini. Iqabane elikhawuleza linyukele kwinto obungayifuni, okanye elihlala libuyela kumxholo owufumana uphazamisa, asiyongxaki ingenabungozi. Kulingana nentsomi yeqabane elingalihoyanga igama lokhuseleko. Ukuze ukulinganisa indima nge-AI kukhuseleke ngokwenene, isakhelo kufuneka sibekho nalapho.

Ngokwenyani oku kuthetha izinto ezintathu.

Beka imida phambi komboniso, hayi ngexesha lawo. Kulula kakhulu ukuthi "soze le nto" ngokuzolileyo, kwangaphambili, kunokwalathisa ibali kude nento sele iqhubeka. I-NSFW AI Companion iquka useto lokucaca nendawo yemida eqinileyo njengenxalenye yokwakha iqabane, ngoko imida iyinxalenye yokuba lingubani elo qabane endaweni yokuba yinto ekufuneka uhlale uyikhumbuza ngayo.

Zigcinele ububhali. Umnqweno wokudlala ngamandla wakhelwe phezu kwempikiswano yokuba ulawula ukungabi nalawulo. Iqabane eliqala ukubhala iimpendulo zakho, ligqibe ukuba ubungcenga okanye ukuba uyonwabele, lisusa kanye obo bubhali obenza umnqweno ukhuseleke. Iqabane elilungileyo lokulinganisa indima lidlala umlinganiswa walo ngokupheleleyo lize lishiye owakho kuwe.

Yiba nendlela yokuphuma esoloko isebenza. Phuma kumlinganiswa nanini na ufuna, thetha into oyifunayo, kwaye ulindele ukuba iqabane liyihloniphe. Ukukwazi ukuthi "yima, masitshintshe umboniso" kwaye oko kuhlonitshwe kulingana negama lokhuseleko kwi-AI.

Imida engeyiyo intelekelelo

Kukho udidi olunye apho le ngqiqo ingentla ingasebenziyo, kwaye kufuneka kuthethwe ngaphandle kokujija. Nawuphi na umxholo wezesondo obandakanya abantwana awukho etafileni, ngokupheleleyo, nakwesiphi na isakhelo, njengentsomi okanye ngenye indlela. Kuyafana nakubantu bokwenene, abachongiweyo abangavumanga. Le ayisiyomida ebekwa ngumsebenzisi; yimida yendawo ngokwayo. Amaqonga anoxanduva ayayinyanzelisa, kwaye i-NSFW AI Companion iyayenza. Yonke into ekwesi sicatshulwa imalunga nabantu abadala, abalinganiswa abaqanjiweyo abadala, kunye nabasebenzisi abadala abavumayo.

Ixesha lokunikela ingqalelo

Umnqweno asiyongxaki ngokwawo. Uphando lukaLehmiller, phakathi kwabanye, lucebisa ukuba iminqweno yabantu abaninzi ihlala ngokuthula nobomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane. Kodwa iimpawu ezimbalwa kufanelekile ukuba ziqatshelwe.

Ukuba umnqweno ukushiya uziva kakubi rhoqo emva koko, endaweni yokwaneliseka, usenokunxulumana nento efanele ingqalelo ethambileyo. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba ungena kwindlela ophatha ngayo abantu bokwenene, njengolindelo endaweni yentelekelelo yabucala, luphawu lokuba isakhelo sityibilikile. Kwaye ukuba uzifumana usebenzisa imiboniso enzulu ukuphepha ukuva into endaweni yokuva into, kufanelekile ukubuza ukuba yintoni oyiphephayo.

Akukho nanye kwezi efuna iintloni. Zifuna umdla ofanayo nowawungawuzisa kuyo nayiphi na enye inxalenye yobomi bakho bangaphakathi. U-Emily Nagoski, kwi *Come As You Are*, wenza ingxoxo yokuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwimpilo-ntle yezesondo asiyonto oyinqwenelayo kodwa yindlela oziva ngayo ngento oyinqwenelayo. Ukugweba kusoloko kusenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi. Ukuqonda kusoloko kuzenza zibe ngcono.

Inkululeko yeqonga labucala

Abantu bebesoloko besebenzisa intelekelelo ukuhlola into abebengenakuze bayenze. Intelekelelo yezesondo ayahlukanga kuyo yonke enye: iyaziqhelanisa, iyabaxa, idlala ngamandla ngeendlela ebezingenakucingelwa kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Oko akusosiphako kwisini somntu. Yenye yeempawu zayo ezindala.

Iqabane le-AI linikeza uhlobo olutsha lweqonga laleyo ntelekelelo: esebenzisanayo, yabucala, kwaye inomonde ongapheliyo. Isetyenziswe nemida ecacileyo kunye nengqiqo engonakaliswanga yobubhali, inokuba yindawo yokufumanisa into oyifunayo, ukuqonda isizathu sokuba uyifuna, kunye nokuyeka ezinye zeentloni abantu abaninzi abazithweleyo ngalo mbandela. Umthetho obalulekileyo ngulowo abadlali abanamava bebesoloko bewulandela. Umboniso unokuba namandla njengoko uthanda, ukuba nje isakhelo esiwujikelezileyo siqinile.

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